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Dry Your eyes mate - the streets, perfect song for a serious breakup

Does It make sense at all to play hard to get? I have put alot of effort into a this girl I like and I just don't see the relationship as a mutual thing. So I have decided to sit back and not do anything and wait for her to make a move if she really is missing me. I have had it up to the top, she knows how much I like her but I wan't to know if she even cares about me. I would rather just not see her anymore if she doesn't care, so I am letting her decide the future.

I really like this girl, (as seen from my previous posting) but now she went off for the summer and I never told her directly how I felt. I can't contact her over the phone because she doesn't have reception, but I was thinking of writing her a nice letter that tells her exactly how I feel about her. Is this bad or good? It is also her birthday so I really am writing the letter to first wish her a happy birthday.

I have had close to the same situation, but if I had a sign that clear I wouldn't be in the situation at all. What she said to you was basically directly telling you that she likes you without say she likes you. I would jump all over it and ask her on a date. Have fun with it, knowing that she is screaming inside for you to do something.

I am tired of waiting telling myself that I am going to just be friends with this girl I like and then maybe more will happen someday. School ends soon and she will be headed off to a different state for the whole summer, so I have decided that I need to let her know what's up. The question is, her(friend I like) good friend is my friend also, and I was thinking of asking her for advice on what to do to let her(friend I like) know how I feel. Is this a good move? I was thinking that she may know some girl to girl insider info that may help me. If this isn't good, How should I break the news to her without making things feel too akward? I was thinking about asking her to dinner and then just read the signs during the night and then come out and tell her how I feel at the end. We are also going on a trip Memorial Day weekend, which if things go bad could make that weekend akward, so I am kind of nervous of screwing things up. But on the other side if things go good, then that trip will be off the hook. So basically any advice will be much appreciated. Thanks

I am tired of waiting telling myself that I am going to just be friends with this girl I like and then maybe more will happen someday. School ends soon and she will be headed off to a different state for the whole summer, so I have decided that I need to let her know what's up. The question is, her(friend I like) good friend is my friend also, and I was thinking of asking her for advice on what to do to let her(friend I like) know how I feel. Is this a good move? I was thinking that she may know some girl to girl insider info that may help me. If this isn't good, How should I break the news to her without making things feel too akward? I was thinking about asking her to dinner and then just read the signs during the night and then come out and tell her how I feel at the end. We are also going on a trip Memorial Day weekend, which if things go bad could make that weekend akward, so I am kind of nervous of screwing things up. But on the other side if things go good, then that trip will be off the hook. So basically any advice will be much appreciated. Thanks

Would it ever work to ask a friend (that I like more than a friend), on advice as to how I should let a girl I like know that I like them, without my friend knowing that I am talking about her and I. It is impossible for me to tell what she wants, but if I ask her without letting her know that I am talking about her, then it may be helpful. Just a thought. Read my other posts to get the whole story.

I don't know the friend that I would be getting help from nearly as well as the friend I like. Them two are best friends. I know that the friend I would ask help from doesn't like me in anyway beyond a new friend as of now. We don't really have an individual friendship just a friendship connection to the girl I like. So I wouldn't ever think that she would get jealous. I just think that if she knew that she might be able to help me out with what to do.

I don't know if this would ever work, but would it ever be ok to ask one of my female friend's(Girl I want to be more than a friend with) friend(female friend who I know fairly well) to help me find out if there would ever be a chance for my firiend and I to go beyond friends. If you want to hear the whole story, look at my previous topics. It seems like it might be helpful to let my friend know that I like our other friend so that she can offer me tips on what to do or maybe help make it happen. Kind of a confusing question but hopefully you can help.

Well, In order for things to get better, you have to be willing to make things better. You have to have the right attitude or else you will convince yourself that everything is wrong. No one can help you unless you are willing to be helped. I challenged you to try a different path in life, but you have to be willing to try it to see for yourself. Only you can make your life a life of happiness, but you have to look to the right resources and be open and willing to take advice from people and willing to put your trust in the lord. I can't say much more than that. Just remember that you can't be helped if you don't want to be helped.

Well, that is a very valid argument, but there is a good reason. God is all powerful and all knowing, but if he were to control everything that happened in the world we would be more like robots than people. While God does have the power to prevent suffering, he has created us with the freedom of choice. We can obey him and live by faith doing good things, or we can disobey and do evil and thus suffer consequences of our evil actions. People that treat you bad, are infuenced by sin and thus choose to be mean. The best way to deal with that is to shine God's love through you and be willing to forgive them, because daily we disobey God and he forgives us. Believe me, if you choose to follow God and accept the lord into your life, God's light will shine through you and people will see it. People may still be mean, but those people are insignificant and should be ignored and prayed for. By accepting God you can be accepted into the wonderful family of God. Most of my friends believe in God and that is not by chance. We have simular beliefs and are bothers and sisters in God's Family. You would find out that by becoming a part of God's family and getting involved with a church or bible study, that fellow believers will accept you and care for you. If you went to a church with questions, people would go crazy for the opportunity to let you know what the Lord has to offer you. You have to be willing though. The only way to see what I am talking about is to give it a shot with a positive attitude. Let me know your thoughts!

I realize that many people are skeptical of God, but thats because they haven't seen what the lord can offer them. I challenge you to go talk with a pastor or a christian student and they will be more than happy to tell you about what God has to offer you. The biggest challenge in accepting God is that you need to change your way of life, but it sounds like that is what you could use, a change for the good. I can guarantee that if you put your faith in God and are willing to find out what he has to tell you through his word(BIBLE) you will be a changed person forever. All I can say is give it a shot. If you want to know more, PM me and I would be more than happy to start you on a walk with the lord. Best of Luck.

There is this girl I met who I was attracted to almost immediately. I decided that I wanted to persue her as a potential girl friend. I started out just trying to be her friend, because it felt awkward to just ask her out with out knowing her. I always arranged any times that we got together. It has been a about a year now and it is still that way were I want her to be my girlfriend, but now we are just good friends. I have in the past tried to ask her over for dinner, but she takes it kind of weird. She will say stuff like, "My weeknights, might work better than weekends." She is always open to doing things with me but doesn't normally initiate them unless I bring the subject up, like "What are you doing this tomorrow?" She would then say ".... you should come along." It doesn't appear that she likes me more than a friend, but she does like being friends. She asked me over to her parents place for the weekend with one of her other female friends and we had a great time. My problem is, I want to be more than friends with her, but I don't know how to move from the state our relatonship is at now to being more than that. I don't want to ruin our friendship, but continuing to be friends just burns at my heart, because I want to be more then that. She hasn't ever had a boyfriend, but she loves her female friends,so it seems like she may not want a boyfriend yet. But then she talks about how she probably will end up bein a stay at home mom. We are in college, so it seems like she would want to start persuing a relationship. How do I deal with this situation? How do I find out what she really wants? I am just plain confused.

There is this girl I met who I was attracted to almost immediately. I decided that I wanted to persue her as a potential girl friend. I started out just trying to be her friend, because it felt awkward to just ask her out with out knowing her. I always arranged any times that we got together. It has been a about a year now and it is still that way were I want her to be my girlfriend, but now we are just good friends. I have in the past tried to ask her over for dinner, but she takes it kind of weird. She will say stuff like, "My weeknights, might work better than weekends." She is always open to doing things with me but doesn't normally initiate them unless I bring the subject up, like "What are you doing this tomorrow?" She would then say ".... you should come along." It doesn't appear that she likes me more than a friend, but she does like being friends. She asked me over to her parents place for the weekend with one of her other female friends and we had a great time. My problem is, I want to be more than friends with her, but I don't know how to move from the state our relatonship is at now to being more than that. I don't want to ruin our friendship, but continuing to be friends just burns at my heart, because I want to be more then that. She hasn't ever had a boyfriend, but she loves her female friends,so it seems like she may not want a boyfriend yet. But then she talks about how she probably will end up bein a stay at home mom. We are in college, so it seems like she would want to start persuing a relationship. How do I deal with this situation? How do I find out what she really wants? I am just plain confused.