A little party

Hey ya´ll.

I´m in a difficult sitution with my emotions right now and I´m a little bit confused.

The thing started out like this.

My girlfirend came to my place today at like 6PM, she had a small drink, we chatted, watched a standup comedy show, had an intercourse and all of that...

Suddenly she started to have a roundabout chat about the party she was going to got to, I mean, I asked wheter i should go aswell, but she wanted me to stay home. I saied: "Ok, go and have a great time!" So we ended that topic me knowing that she is going to meet her Friends at the mall, at 10PM. but then when i wanted to go to the mall with her she saied that i could not go with her. So I thought something fishy was going on. Although she saied to me that she will be with her (girl) friends. 10 of em, to be exact. I thought okay, a girls night, why not. Then all of a sudden i wanted to call a friend of mine from her phone: "cling!" new message: "I miss your kisses!" Turns out it was from her Ex from 6 months back relationship. So I kinda ignored that and asked her about it... No fights, nothing, everything was cool. I´m like, yea, okay, might be just the guy´s missing her kisses from old times. So we dropped that topic, I saied goodbye to her, kissed her, told her that I loved her. She went and I continued the comedy movie.

My question is: "how can I be sure, that the party she is at is only girls party and that I would not have to worry about anything going wrong with it?"

I might just be paranoied by the fact that the last time something had happened was just 8 months ago with my old girlfriend who saied the same things but we had been together for 1,5 years until we broke up...

I have been together with this girl for allmost 2 months, haven´t had any fights, nothing. everything has been okay. But yea, the party of girls isn´t exactly what I can´t ignore. I mean, I do trust her but what are the odds of her cheating on me? I love her so damn much that I can´t afford to lose a lovedone for the same S___T twice in one year.

What should I do to keep the potential cheating ideas away from my head?

BTW! I´m from Estonia, im 20 years old, live in my own apartment, have a great job, go to school and I´m an IT specialist. Any comments of my english would be a great feedback. Learned all my english from cartoons, movies, and etc. Most people from USA (my friends) think that i was born in USA, cuz i speak so good english. Like a real guy from USA.

So umh, ideas anyone`?

Thanks!

Nils.

Two months isn't really a long enough time to know how ethical someone is, although you've observed her over time and your gut has picked up stuff one way or another. That's the stuff only you know, and we don't.

I'd wonder if that kind of contact form the ex has me walking into unfinished business. I personally don't believe in getting involved with anyone who is still involved with an ex. That's not a 'rule' for anyone else, it's my preference.

I'd give this time. I'd observe and see how things play out. Your gut is already uneasy, so just watch her behaviors and her treatment of you, then decide whether she's tipping you toward feeling secure enough for an investment, or whether she's too shady for that--even if you can't put your finger on why.

I've never needed 'proof' of bad behavior to decide whether I trust someone or not. I don't need someone to harm me before I'm able to spot someone's capacity to do that. Trust your gut.

And your English is great!

Maybe it's something. . .maybe it's not. Wait till she comes home to ask her about the party that she went to.

Ok, so i´ll trust my gut. I called her like 3 hours ago, I heard some girls talking but that was all. She told me that everything was okay. Until she switched off her phone... I sent her a message about me loving her... but no repsonse, i won´t call her either otherwize i´ll get on her nerves and that can mean a difference of losing her and keeping her.... BTW, AS I WAS WRITING THIS MESSAGE, SHE CALLED me, she is a lil drunk and she is coming over to my apartment so im just overreacting and seems like everything turned out good. HAPPY AS HELL THAT EVERYTHING turned out good and now, I can finally say that TRUST is the key in a relationship. And jealousey is just a though in my case.

Thanks Catfeeder for the advice, appriciate it, and thanks for the reply on my skills. TY

Imma go and sleep besides my girlfriend and I´ll hug her really tight