Why Do Men Want Anal Sex?

Please, would the gentlemen on the forum kindly answer this question that puzzles most ladies. Is it because it's "tighter"? Is it because it's a new area unexplored? Why do men want another hole when they already have one which is already well lubricated?

None is better than the other, they are just different, that is it.

It is not the tightness, it is the texture, position, everything!

And also a very improtant factor, the psychological aspect of the "sex game", just something else to spice it up and avoid doing always the exact same thing.

Do you want to eat the same thing everyday? Well, a little variation, feels different, and if you are open you can also enjoy it.

No idea. I've never understood the fascination and not particularly interested in finding out.

Plus I've heard a few horror stories from friends...

animalistic reasons that is why

To those who think it is all about "power" or animalistic behaviour, or about having homosexual tendencies, I would disagree.

I am female but I really enjoy anal sex with lots of foreplay and arousal beforehand. Once you have learned to practice it right (anal sex should not be about pain!) it is very pleasurable. There are a lot of nerves up there for females that can produce very powerful orgasms, especially combined with clitoral stimulation. Done properly it is very fun to do! I will only do it within the confines of a loving trusting relationship though due to a few reasons.

As for why guys like it, it is just different...it is an extra spice to a sexual relationship, enjoyable, pleasurable. It feels different, and is just a different dynamic. In other words, if I can get pleasure from it, and he can...why not? It is NOT contrary to popular belief, dirty or damaging or painful (without lubrication or rushing it and not taking time first time it may hurt for about 10 seconds, but once you get used to relaxing the muscles no problem - and my partner is quite large in length and girth so it is not a matter of size for the guy).

P.S. I just asked my boyfriend what his reasons are: why not, its enjoyable and it allows for more variety, and is also something else you can do during certain times of the month!

I just like the good old fashioned where the pieces are made to fit , like a puzzle

I agree 110%... ;-)

animalistic? Do animals engage in anal sex? Is this why some of them went extinct?

animalistic? Do animals engage in anal sex? Is this why some of them went extinct?

ROTFL... I wondered where the 'animalistic' part of that was coming from... I never thought of it as animalistic, but I personally don't wish to go there... I have "EXIT ONLY" tattooed on my rear end, so I've treated my partners with the same approach.. ;-) (I'm kidding, but if I ever DID get a tattoo, that's probably the first one I'd get! ;-))

I mean have you ever watched those shows on nature that is what the malew species does it is in their genetic makeup. It does not mean we have to like or concur with it.

Frankly, I think you are sexist stereotyping. If you read the responses you will see many men don't care for it and some women enjoy it.

Plus, I still don't get the nature angle. I have never seen a nature show that shows animals engaging in anal sex. Perhaps I don't watch enough nature shows, or maybe they only show that sort of activity on the Animal World Pornography Channel, or the Playboy Mansion Zoological Suite.

I think that men like to do the impossible. They like to know that they can have anything that they want. It is the ID in them that keeps crying and wanting more.

i think its because some guys are going to find out they are gay in the long run...and then others for control and others because of their dogs!

im being a lil mean but seriously...There are so many other possitions that are so much more comfortable..

why in the butt dude?

i think its because some guys are going to find out they are gay in the long run...and then others for control and others because of their dogs!

 

im being a lil mean but seriously...There are so many other possitions that are so much more comfortable..

 

why in the butt dude?

I think those are all rather "impulsive reasons" and well, I would argue not based on very many facts or realities.

There are many other positions, but anal is an option and it can be very pleasurable for both partners - I find anal sex to be very stimulating and also a very warm, tender act as it requires a lot of trust and care.

If the guy wants it and the girl is uncomfortable but willing to "negotiate", she should suggest getting a strap-on, some KY and asking the guy if he's into receiving it too? It requires the same amount of muscle/sphincter relaxation on his part. Who knows, maybe he'll like it just as much as her? Maybe more!

Sexychiick16 wrote:

i think its because some guys are going to find out they are gay in the long run...and then others for control and others because of their dogs!

im being a lil mean but seriously...There are so many other possitions that are so much more comfortable..

why in the butt dude?

I think those are all rather "impulsive reasons" and well, I would argue not based on very many facts or realities.

There are many other positions, but anal is an option and it can be very pleasurable for both partners - I find anal sex to be very stimulating and also a very warm, tender act as it requires a lot of trust and care.

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Sorry guys I wasnt trying to come off as prude or whatnot...but its just not my possition and no ive really never tried it...But it did happened OnCe...I didnt feel so comfortable it just isnt me..Its cool tho

Anal sex has been around since people have started having sex. Its simply another experience to try. For example im sure there are females on this board who were/are curious about giving head? In the same respect guys how havent had anal sex with a female are curious about it. Now it is possible that anal sex feels different than a vagina. I dont believe it makes a man gay if he wants to have anal sex or like having anal sex. What makes a person gay has nothin to relate to sex its simply that they are attracted and want to be with a person of the same sex. Anal sex is something that some men want to try and some dont, the same goes with women some are open to the idea and others arent.

I also dont believe that having anal sex with a woman is a way to dominate her, if she agrees to it then how is that any kind of domination?

People like to explore things sexually there are things out there that people are into far beyond anal sex.

mmmm. Never been interested in anal sex. Yes a guy not interested! I have absolutely no idea why some people have a facination with it, I guess everybody to their own.

I've never tried anal sex, and I don't really want to either. I won't judge people who do it, but for me personally, it just isn't a turn on.

I don't know that its about power over the female. Maybe thats why some guys like it. However, I just think some people just find anal sex as something they are interested in trying. It's just like anything else that has to do with sex. Why do people experiment? It's kind of like asking why people give each other oral sex? I mean, should mouths really go down there?

Not saying I don't like oral sex, cause I do, but I think it could basically be the same answer. You just like it, or are interested in trying it. It's just something new to try and people like experimenting with sex.

Um, I have posted several times and I AM female. And several times I have said I truly enjoy it. It is not about him dominating me...because I have the control. I am the one that allows him to penetrate me in that way, and there are times where I don't want it, and times I do, and so it is MY choice. I love to experiment in the confines of a loving, healthy trusting relationship.

I am the last person in the world whom I would call "weak" - sexually or in any other matter - it was MY idea to do it with him, I WANTED to do it with him and I was the one that controlled how it went as he wanted me to be comfortable. And it is the same in that sense every time. Power is not just about "who's on top" so to speak. Anal can also be done from many positions (including girl on top) so it has nothing to do with the guy overpowering the girl.

I do truly enjoy anal sex as part of my sexual life, I have amazing orgasms as there is a bundle of nerves in that area that truly can send waves of pleasure through you. You need to learn to do it right though otherwise yes, it will be painful and will turn you off.

im so fortunate my boyfriend is not into that because even if he was i would NOT even consider it!

I understand what you mean RayKay about having to have that trust before experimenting with anal. Somehow I don't think I could try it if I didn't completely trust that person.

Do you ever find that it can get...messy?

I understand what you mean RayKay about having to have that trust before experimenting with anal. Somehow I don't think I could try it if I didn't completely trust that person.

 

Do you ever find that it can get...messy?

It's funny, because there have been boyfriends I went out with for months and years and never had any desire to practice anal with (did once or twice, but was never into it), and yet with my current partner, I wanted to very early on (about a month along)..in retrospect it is because I had a trust there before I even really consciously knew it.

No, honestly that is a bit of a myth...I guess it could happen if you were having some digestive problems and I would advise you had "gone" earlier in the day and not have a full stomach but I have not had any problems. I know in "adult movies" the girls usually I hear have an enema about 12 hours before they are going to be doing such a shoot, but in my experience there has never been such a problem..it really is quite clean! But there are of course invisible bacteria, so be sure to make sure you are cleaned up after.

Some of the keys to enjoyable anal sex is LOTS AND LOTS OF LUBE and LOTS AND LOTS OF FOREPLAY! I think ignoring these are mistakes lots of people make, and hence make it painful and unenjoyable. When you are practicing foreplay, he can gently massage your anus and insert a finger and gently massage that way (with LOTS of lube of course).

If you find that you do enjoy that (lots of nerves in there so it is enjoyable, but some people cannot get past the mental aspect of it) you will probably enjoy more....you can get small toys to get you used to having something larger, but with the right technique you can go to anal sex with your partner.

I recommend the first few times you do NOT do it doggy style - this can be more painful for women due to the way the penis will put pressure on. I recommend either spooning, or women lying flat on stomach OR on her back (in missionary position). A version of spooning, or me laying with my back on his chest is one of my favourites for this position as he can play with my breasts and clitoris this way and I can guide the thrusts. Spooning I enjoy as you also get that ability to have his hands roaming.

My partner is very large, but honestly it is not painful. What happens the first few times is that as he enters you, you will possibly feel a sharp pain at first which makes many women say OH NO, get the HECK OUT, and they never try again. But (and this is where the trust part comes in!) you ask your partner to just hold absolutely still for a bit. In about 10-15 seconds (just relax and wait, it is worth it!) the pain goes away and he can go in deeper. My partner had tried it with partners in the past but they never allowed him to go all the way in (about halfway or so) and never for very long at all, but actually once you learn to relax the muscles there you will find it is not painful at all - he is pleased he can go all the way in and stay there and move around..it just took lots of lube, foreplay, trust and patience. Combined with clitoral stimulation, it is great!

So many people have these negative views of anal sex (about it being dirty, or wrong, or must mean the guy is gay) but it seems to have an undeserved reputation in my opinion. The nerves are so sensitive in there, that you can have a powerful orgasm - and I find multiples happen often. You can practice anal in many positions and is a fun addition...and versatile for certain times of the month

If ANYONE has any further questions about it, please feel free to PM me, or post here.

...with the right person ... its a matter of taste and heat of the moment

Well from a mans perspective I would say the turn on has a lot to do with the porn industry. Every porn flick you see has women taking it in every conceivable orfice. I would love to experience it just for the "thrill". It would also be great to have the back door open when the monthly coat of paint on the front is still wet ;-)

Frankly, I think you are sexist stereotyping. If you read the responses you will see many men don't care for it and some women enjoy it.

 

Plus, I still don't get the nature angle. I have never seen a nature show that shows animals engaging in anal sex. Perhaps I don't watch enough nature shows, or maybe they only show that sort of activity on the Animal World Pornography Channel, or the Playboy Mansion Zoological Suite.

No stereotyping, Please watch cats dogs lions check it out it is like a power struggle for a man like getting a bj it is what makes them feel manly sometimes plus I guess it makes them feel closer to the vagina.