MissCanuck

So, he has threatened to leave you. That's what I'm getting here, and you are scrambling to hang on to him and being defensive about it. A lawyer and judge would make sure he sees his kids again anyway, so that's a silly and desperate argument. Get real, OP. Nobody here is going to offer advice on how to continuing mistreating this man.

You realize this is more than likely a load of equine manure, right? He got caught that way, so he's now pretending he did it on purpose? Sure, buddy. The more you tell us about this guy, OP, the worse he comes across. Sorry, but I'd still be moving on. I would be too turned off by his dishonesty and immaturity.. No wonder women his age don't want to date him. They see through his BS in a way that a younger and less experienced woman might not.

So, this is a verbally abusive relationship? And emotionally abusive? You can't. Your partner has free agency to leave you if they can't take it anymore. That will be the price you pay for mistreating them.

What makes you think she’ll actually have made up her mind after the weekend? There’s every chance she still won’t have really have decided anything. You’re being too rigid about your expectations of this specific weekend. The biggest decision of all has already been made. She isn’t struggling with her choice to break up, because that’s already happened. You’re grasping desperately at straws, man.

Son, it's you who doesn't understand how games works. You asked her out and she rejected you. Don't let you ego steer the ship and make a fool of yourself to a woman who is interested in someone else. You're a bit too deep in the PUA nonsense.

It sounds like you already know he isn't as into this as you are (or at least, not in a way that's fulfilling for you), and that is why you don't really ask about it. You already know this is enough for him and it won't likely change. You can speak to him about it but my guess is you're going to find that this is just who he is and he doesn't really want more "together-ness." I also wonder why he only works part-time at his age. Does he make enough to support himself?

This. Having her come along with the parents is not a good idea. Arrange something separate for you two to do alone, OP.

OP, how old are you? What part of the world are you in? Your answers to these questions may help us better guide you and steer you towards available local resources.

What is it you expect her to say that will give you closure? She has already ended your relationship and is effectively seeing her ex again. I don't get what more to need to hear to understand that your relationship with her is over. I know it's hard to let go and you're now scrambling for any sign of hope, but you have got to stop putting yourself through this. You will prolong your own pain (and your eventual healing) if you don't.

So, go and live your relationship. You don't need to convince us that she is great. If you believe that to be true, have at it. Good luck.

Nope, I woudln't pass "Go" with this guy. He lied more than once, and didn't come clean. You found out on your own and had to confront him about it. I wouldn't bother trying to build trust with someone who lies right to my face for their own gain, right out of the gate. Next.

What is your point? It's okay because it doesn't happen 24 hours a day?

Yes, of course. My comment was a rhetorical one.

Exactly. It's awfully rich that she is trying to control your decisions here and in the same breath tells you to think for yourself. I can't believe you put up with this garbage.

The important factor here is you're recognizing that your professional life and your personal life are out of balance. Now you can take steps to address it. My dear cousin failed to do so, and was shocked when the day came that his wife told him she wanted a divorce. Even my cousin's own mother tried to warn him that he was short-changing his family (his then-wife and their daughter), but he didn't really seem to get it until it was too late. Their divorce was finalized a couple years ago, and he's with a new partner now. I have noticed that he seems to have found a better balance but it came with a significant cost to his personal life and emotional well-being for a while there.