Yeah, my ex husband encouraged me to be a stay at home mom and wife. He said "I don't see why you need to be stressed out all the time. I can take care of the financial stuff." Sounds nice, right? But when I expressed an opinion on something he would say "You don't contribute so you don't get a say." He also called me "spoiled" because I drove a nicer vehicle than he did. Um, excuse me? I "contributed" by caring for our child, cleaning, cooking, buying groceries and generally keeping our home. And HE said he didn't want me to work! Also, HE chose the car. So I decided to go back to work. Of course he whined about it because dinner wasn't ready at 6:00 pm like he had gotten used to and he kept telling me I didn't "need" to work, but I reminded him what he'd said about me not contributing. He wanted me at home so he would have total control, not because he was truly worried about my stress level. Oh, and he didn't want us to have any friends and I tend to make friends at work so that was another factor. No, he didn't abuse me but he definitely wanted that isolation factor.
And he's not a terrible person. He's a good father and a hard worker, but he had some serious blind spots when it came to husband/wife interactions and what a woman's wifely role "should" be. That was a major reason why I divorced him.