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I have to add I’m a tap obsessive… 🤣 I know how that sounds. But get me some Perrin and Rowe, Lefroy Brooks or some Barber Wilson and I’m in heaven… 🤣🚿 I’m lucky because I love these things to have them in my own home but understand they are huge luxuries. Sorry kids, Mam blew all the money on traditional faucets 🫢🥴🥴🥴 x

Dias! 🥳 I love dark furniture, mahogany and I also love walnut (burled walnut especially! Can be mid to light too) in the right place, balanced nicely! I love this! Is this your childhood home in Greece? I absolutely LOVE interiors!!! I always want in everyone’s house 🥲🤣 I understand it’s very personal though! But thank you, it looks like a very calm, peaceful part of the house! Ours is Georgian, I think often referred to as a display cabinet or silverware dresser. Could be other names I’m sure! It’s much bigger than it appears, our ceilings are very tall - I get the impression the ceilings are tall here in this picture too? Maybe 10 foot plus? When doing our kitchen, I wanted to re-create the last kitchen me and the hubs designed but add a few more antique twists so, instead of getting a cabinet maker to fit floor to ceiling cabinets for behind the island, I got a free standing antique cabinet instead! As you know I’m not bothered about the traditional layout of a normal kitchen where you have worktop space all around most of the walls and cabinets above the worktop space! I’m not knocking it it’s just not my chosen style. I can see that glorious sun trying to get through the curtains 🥲 Here, a different story! As you know England, we love a bit of drizzle drizzle here… 😭🤣🤣🤣 I don’t mind snapping indiscreet little sections of our house but wouldn’t do a full snap! Just because of the kids and we will probably be here for the rest of unless something majorly financial or job wise changed. It’s a scaled down version of the last house. We have some interesting rooms like a vaulted ceiling room with a pool table and quaint dormer windows and I’ve created a smaller L shaped walled, mini yard/court yard bit similar to the last house as well! With triple wall to ceiling glass bi-fold doors that all open out to open the whole kitchen to the garden! I love the feel of your Greek house!!!!!! Thanks for the snap Dias - Y’know I’m an interior loser 🤣😎 x

Evening wind down music when it’s time to get up 🌝 x

I feel Alias this is understandable. I can actually see both sides and don’t automatically think your girlfriend is “the bad guy!” I’m also tainting this with personal experience as well! I had an old friend I’d grown up with and come up through school with. She struggled with an eating disorder as did I at certain points. We both never discussed anything to do with diets which, is the strange part, but because she was only 15 her Dad had her put in therapy and she was instantly heavily medicated. She walked around like a zombie for 2 years. She gained weight but lost her essence. She used to fall asleep in class. I think it’s important if therapy is the route you’re going down to do your research and find a doctor you really click with. Try and maybe ask your girlfriend what would put her at ease? Would she maybe like to search for local therapists near you together? Maybe alongside your own therapy you could attend a group with her or regular date nights? So you can talk and set that time aside for each other along with your private development. x

I think we are speculating about why she feels threatened - it may be more deep rooted or more malicious, who could know? Personally, I don’t think this instantly makes her the bad guy. They need to talk this through as a couple. If she can’t get around the therapy concept or changing therapists because of the gender, then the OP will have to decide what to do moving forward. I’m British - we don’t do therapy really. Stiff upper lip and all that. It’s not a cultural norm here. I see therapy as vital for things like childhood trauma, abusive situations or crisis like mental health disorders. I can understand the concept of, if you are having problems in your relationship, going to seek outside help; be it professional or not, could quicken the end, or even cause the end of a relationship, whether anyone is mentioning breaking things off or not. I think he is justified in his feelings, but so is she. I hope they can resolve it between themselves, and come to some arrangement where the OP can receive therapy if that’s what he needs but in a way that accommodates his girlfriends feelings - if it’s a relationship worth saving! Therapy isn’t always the answer to mental health issues and it isn’t the only option. You have to bear in mind that seeing a psychologist can often entail being prescribed medications - this can lead people down other paths they may not have originally gone down. Medications often have side effects and can affect couples sex lives and other aspects of their life. I think she had a smidge of a legit concern, but she’s going about it the wrong way. x

I’m choked! Well said! 😭 x

Thought you might appreciate this one Yoga… LMAOO 😆

Robert Greene 😎 x

I think his girlfriend may fear and probably the worry is warranted, that eventually over the course of prolonged therapy, their relationship will come up. Which is normal and natural, especially if you are in a serious relationship and if you’re having problems within it. x

I would actually potentially suggest, although this is not my personal style, that if the OP would like to explore therapy, that they also go into couples therapy and of course with a separate therapist as I think, his girlfriend has tainted this one enough, even if they did eventually meet and then get along 🤣 And I actually does think it makes a difference the gender of the therapist. I personally would rather speak to a male therapist myself, if I were to go down that route. Everyone has different preferences. If his girlfriend is the jealous type, the fact she is female will play on her mind a bit. It’s not unheard of for people to develop feelings for their therapist, it is explained to be a common phenomenon that is usually gotten over but; if you feel your emotions are being heard, this can develop a form of attraction and bond whether that is a temporary illusion or not. x

Of course, but if something causes a big rift in your relationship, between a couple, you can’t just say “well tough it’s what I want to do so you can’t stop me” or it will probably spell the end of the relationship. Everyone has a right to do whatever they want. A part of me would personally love to go back to the gentleman’s club I used to work at and start stripping and pole dancing again from 9pm till 3am but, I think rightfully so, my husband doesn’t like that idea as I’m a married woman and mother of three young kids. Is it my right to go do what I want? Sure - but not at the detriment of my marriage. It’s not that important to me. I actually think, reading between the lines, the OP’s girlfriend fears talking about their problems with a third party will mean eventually the end of their relationship. I actually have a hunch it might not be much to do with female personality traits but they are maybe potentially a small factor. I think this says more about the fractured nature of their relationship than the debate over whether he sees a therapist or not. I would actually predict the relationship won’t last, whether he sees one or not, but I think his girlfriend is right to know if he sees a therapist, it may spell the beginning of the end sooner than if he hadn’t. I’m not saying she’s right by the way - I can just sense her reasoning behind it and I think there is a shred of truth in her worry. x

One of my all time fave heart ache anthems! Suppose it’s heart ache with a soulful twist!! —- Lookin' back over my years I guessed, I've shedded some tears Told myself time and time again This time I'm gonna win But another fight, things ain't right I'm losin' again Takes a fool to lose twice And start all over again Think I'd better let it go Looks like another love T.K.O. Think I'd better let it go, let it go, baby Looks like another love T.K.O —- x

OF COURSE!!!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳 x

This one by Gwen is also another relatable, lamenting guilty pleasure of mine! And I’ve been there at 4am just, not often in the limo… 🤣🤣🤣 —- And all I know is You've got to give me everything Nothing less 'cause you know I give you all of me I give you everything that I am I'm handin' over everything that I've got 'Cause I wanna have a really true love Don't ever wanna have to go and give you up Stay up 'til four in the morning and the tears are pouring And I want to make it worth the fight What have we been doing for all this time? Baby, if we're gonna do it, come on, do it right All I wanted was to know I'm safe Don't wanna lose the love I've found Remember when you said that you would change? Don't let me down It's not fair how you are I can't be complete Can you give me more? —- x

— Who else am I gon' lean on when times get rough? Who's going to talk to me on The phone 'til the sun comes up? Who's going to take your place? There ain't nobody better Oh, baby baby, we belong together —- My personal sad, lamenting, guilty pleasure! x