Is it true that men pull away when they begin to start having feelings or begin to fall in love with a woman? I have heard this from several sources. The alternative explanation could be that the man just isn’t that into the woman or has changed his mind about her. But how does one know if their man needs space or just isn’t feeling it anymore? I have actually posted a couple times about this guy, but the slow pace of the relationship has left me feeling confused since all my past relationships have started pretty hot and heavy.
I feel this way with the guy I have been dating since January. Things have been going slow, but we have been consistently seeing each other about once a week although with little talking in between. He is a busy professional, and things have been especially rough this past month since he has been busy organizing a conference for this coming weekend.
The last few times we have seen each other he has started to bring up questions about us, although we have not had the exclusivity talk. He has asked several times what I feel when I am with him, what I think about relationships in general, and has sort of jokingly referred to me as his girlfriend.
Yet I feel like he asks these questions and then becomes so distant! Instead of stepping it up, sometimes I feel like he is taking a step back. It really seems like a contradiction to me and confuses me so much. This past week he has been especially distant, and has not sent me a message or e-mailed me at all. I sent him an e-mail, and his response was slightly cold.
Is this whole pulling away phase normal?