Myspace and dating?

[the_final]

I've glanced at lots of dating sites and they all seem catered to older people, older than 22, people that seem like they want to get married.

 

Myspace on the other hand seems catered to younger people, so I made an account on there thinking I may have some success since my friend has about 3000 friends, a lot of them are hot ladies. I'm thinking, whats his secret? I don't want to bring up the subject to him as if to give anything about myself away.

 

What is someone who has that many friends' secret? Can anyone speak from experience?

 

Is it that my myspace page isn't that popular or clever enough? Can I get a critique? Am I allowed to post a link: link removed

[laboheme]

I think the secret is just requesting to be friends with people. Most of the people I know just automatically accept friendship requests, unless the profile looks really creepy. Just because someone has a lot of friends does NOT mean that they actually know them in person...and it doesn't mean that he/she has talked to any of them! Maybe not even a single message!

 

As far as dating sites...Maybe try OKCupid? It's not as soulmate-oriented as Match. come and eHarmony, so it's more casual and appropriate for younger people...

[the_final]

Do you think my profile looks creepy? I know it ain't perfect, but I'm just not good at this coding stuff and I don't want to waste time doing all that. A lot of the stuff there is just what seems to fit my attitude.

 

Oh yeah, I don't think my friend added all of them himself, he gets a lot of friend requests from "real girls". And what I mean by that is, I get friend requests from evil porn and ipod bots disguised as beautiful women. How did he happen to get that you think?

[laboheme]

No, I don't think it looks creepy (I wasn't implying that at all). A little busy, maybe, but I have very minimalistic tastes when it comes to web design, so don't base that on my opinion. Is your friend in a lot of Myspace groups? Does he have lots of interests listed? From what I remember (haven't used Myspace in a while), interests are links, so you can see who else has the same ones...and I guess people add friends based on that?

[the_final]

Yeah my friend has every band that he likes listed and movies too. I find that just annoying, so thats why I just have pictures.

[iwishiknew]

I tried myspace before for dating, never had any luck..alot of fake profiles on there

[Meow18]

I wouldn't use myspace for dating, but that's just me.

 

I have a myspace page, but I do not accept requests from people I don't know. But, all of my real friends on there have hundreds of friends they don't know and have never talked to. I wonder what's the point??

 

People use myspace for popularity. You accept friend requests from people you don't know and will never say more than "hi" to.

 

So, your friend has 3000 friends on there? And how many does he really ever talk to? How many of those "friends" are really his friends?

 

What difference would it make if he had 3000 or 30? If you are looking to date, you will look better having few friends and getting to know those few friends.

[musicguy]

dude, I have 1300 friends and a lot of them are hot ladies, but a lot of them can be fakes too

[afrodite79]

I've glanced at lots of dating sites and they all seem catered to older people, older than 22, people that seem like they want to get married.

 

Myspace on the other hand seems catered to younger people, so I made an account on there thinking I may have some success since my friend has about 3000 friends, a lot of them are hot ladies. I'm thinking, whats his secret? I don't want to bring up the subject to him as if to give anything about myself away.

 

What is someone who has that many friends' secret? Can anyone speak from experience?

 

Is it that my myspace page isn't that popular or clever enough? Can I get a critique? Am I allowed to post a link: link removed

 

You could try it but i think it's a crapshoot trying to meet people to date on there. I met my ex on there. I wasn't looking for someone to date but just ran accross his profile and told him I thought he was cute. A lot of people are just collecting friends just to seem popular. I don't see the point of having 3000 people on your friends list are you only know and have talked to maybe 3 or 4 of them. Then there are a lot of the "hot" girls on there who have porn sites or are "models". They just want to get guys to go to their porn/modeling sites to make money. Some others just crave attention.

 

I think you'd probably have better luck going to a real dating site. You can try link removed. I don't know how good it is but it's free.

[the_final]

dude, I have 1300 friends and a lot of them are hot ladies, but a lot of them can be fakes too

 

You ever hook up with a Suicide Girl? I'd hit it.

 

And those other dating sites, a lot, you have to pay to write to someone. Anyway I seem to do better in meeting girls in person.

[musicguy]

I have a crush on a Suicide Girl..but that's cuz I'm a member of the site.

 

I met a date on Myspace and she ended up using me

 

OKCupid is free

[the_final]

Would you say its ok to keep doing this if one is dating someone already? And what if the relationship isn't a clearly defined relationship but just something beginning?

[musicguy]

umm probably not

[the_final]

Crap what if she finds my myspace? Will it look bad, as if I'm seeing other girls? Should I start deleting friends? I don't know yet because she hasn't added me. Should I add her since I found her? At the sametime I don't because I don't like dealing with relationships over the internet.

[musicguy]

if who finds ur Myspace page?

[Day_Walker]

You can use myspace in that fashion but you have to work out something that fits with your personality. I find that meeting girls in person works the best.

[ghost69]

my friend looks up chicks on myspace all of the time. i call him a loser when i can.

[MushroomGod]

There is nothing wrong with it. I had girls ask me out to see them through MY Space. Nothing ever came of it.

 

I have other friends that have thoughts about how to go about getting a date through it.

 

Friend request

Send a message not saying "your hot" or "hey"

Be cocky but funny.

Ask her out and see what happens.

 

You have to be different just like in the field. Be very funny in the messages and show your worth talking to. Make her feel like you're judging if she's worth talking to. I've never tried it really but it's worth a shot.

 

My current GF and I didn't meet through My Space but we talked through it before our first date. It's not all bad. Don't listen to the ppl over 25 they aren't used to this stuff.

[ghost69]

lol. this has nothing to do with age. i get enough action in person to need the internet to do my bidding.

[MushroomGod]

lol. this has nothing to do with age. i get enough action in person to need the internet to do my bidding.

 

Well you do. That doesn't mean everyone does. I've noticed younger people are open to meeting from My Space. Like the OP.

[musicguy]

there's nothing wring with meeting people anywhere

[BJH]

I've glanced at lots of dating sites and they all seem catered to older people, older than 22, people that seem like they want to get married.

 

Myspace on the other hand seems catered to younger people, so I made an account on there thinking I may have some success since my friend has about 3000 friends, a lot of them are hot ladies. I'm thinking, whats his secret? I don't want to bring up the subject to him as if to give anything about myself away.

 

What is someone who has that many friends' secret? Can anyone speak from experience?

 

Is it that my myspace page isn't that popular or clever enough? Can I get a critique? Am I allowed to post a link: link removed

Just because your friend has 3,000 people on his friends list doesn't mean he speaks to all of them or knows all of them in real life. I bet there are only 5-10 people on his friends list that he actually knows in real life. The rest are people he probably just added randomly so he could look popular.

I have dated girls from myspace in the past and it isn't something I would recommend. The last time I went out with a chick from myspace, she told me she had a boyfriend when we were having dinner when her profile said she was single, which tells me she was trying to hook up with other guys on myspace behind her boyfriend's back. I'm glad she is not my girlfriend because she seems to be the unfaithful type. As far as other dating sites go, give them a try. There are still plenty of people out there your age just looking to have some fun, but are not quite ready to settle down yet.

[emit_remmus]

Honestly, I'm not looking to settle down, but getting into a relationship seems like the only way to get some. Of course this is the part where I say its not all about the sex but the love and caring bla bla bla whatev.

[ghost69]

myspace is a popularity contest i think.

[musicguy]

myspace is a popularity contest i think.

 

I agree with you. It's all about physical appearance too