highspeed Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 I have a little bit of a problem. When I was going through puberty my sex drive was through the roof! I am 20 now, and I have absolutely no desire to have sex. With any girl. I am not gay, and I am not self conscious. I don't even have a small penis. I just lost a girlfriend of 1.5 years, probably due to not having enough sex. I loved this girl to death, understand me. At the times that we did have sex, I would want it. I just don't want it as much as I hear guys should. During that relationship, we had sex about 12-15 times. Am I past my prime already? I have done research on medical conditions, and none seem to really apply. What is wrong with me? Link to comment
musicguy Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Hmm, I dunno, maybe you lost your sex drive. I have a friend who is 26 and has very little sex drive. I'm the one not getting any and I have a high sex drive Link to comment
J6hn Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 I think you may need that extra connection to bring back your desire. Don't feel you need to have the urge. If you're still recovering from your previous relationship you're likely to just not feel like having much to do with anyone. Sex is about connection and passion. I believe you need to be in love again in order to make love. Link to comment
simrank84 Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 u know i kinda have a similar problem...its my husband with a low sex drive..its so weird...ive been married for a year now and to tell u the truth, i havent done it since december...lolzz...i want to tell him but when i do he is either too tired or im on my period...u know its so weird... Link to comment
arrrrffff Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Your recent breakup could contribute to it. Having just broken up, I currently have absolutely no sex drive at all. Your not alone. I know that I need to be in love to have any sex drive. I'm not one to do it with anyone. Maybe your have the same view. * Note that sex didn't end your relationship, unless she specifically said so, and even then it doesn't break a good relationship if you 2 were in love. Link to comment
Follow Me Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Somethings wrong. When I'm with the fiance, I get hard 4 or 5 times a day. Just from doing normal stuff. Doesn't matter if were having an awesome day, or a horrible fight and not on speaking terms. I can always count on the little guy. Link to comment
valenski Posted January 15, 2007 Share Posted January 15, 2007 Dont think there is a problem really, the teenage years are where our bodies mature so hormores work overtime during that period and we were all curious about sex at that point in time but sometime what happens is the experience doesnt live up to the hype and what you thought you could'nt live without you later discover is not that important. You could try read some info about human libedo (sexual energy) maybe that can provide some insight. Link to comment
addictedblue Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 watch some porno, read dirty magazines, masterbate, go to a strip club. Link to comment
highspeed Posted January 16, 2007 Author Share Posted January 16, 2007 Well I guess it sucks for me... Link to comment
jengh Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Are you on anytype of anti-depressant? I was on Effexor for years and it KILLED my sex drive... There are all sorts of meds that can mess with your libido Link to comment
highspeed Posted January 16, 2007 Author Share Posted January 16, 2007 No medications. Anyone have suggestions that can elevate your mood? I find if I get my Endorphins circulating, I can get in the mood. I am too far from ever getting those to circulate. Has my lifestyle relaxed beyond fixing? Link to comment
run_little_rabbit Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Go for a run. That'll get your endorphins going. Link to comment
highspeed Posted January 16, 2007 Author Share Posted January 16, 2007 I was a 40+ hour a week concrete finisher, then full time landscaper. Need running? Nah... I haven't worked in about a month. This is beside the fact. Link to comment
candy604 Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 maybe your asexual? they just did a documentary on those types of people on sextv the other day. It's possible but it hasn't been researched enough into. Link to comment
caro33 Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Yes I was wondering about the asexual aspect, maybe you are borderline. link removed Link to comment
highspeed Posted January 16, 2007 Author Share Posted January 16, 2007 Could it be depression? I used to be into computers, science, learning, but once I got out of school, I got a job, and now I am not interested in any of that stuff. I could say I care less about my appearance and goals. Link to comment
candy604 Posted January 16, 2007 Share Posted January 16, 2007 is your job stressful? it could be depression as well. Many factors Link to comment
highspeed Posted January 17, 2007 Author Share Posted January 17, 2007 I think I may have found my door. First time I read this was today. I read about "spectatoring". Every once in a while I have this symptom, which prevents you from getting in the mood. This would explain why my erections are fine, but my mental state wasn't. Now I don't think that is completely the problem. The other half is a form of anxiety. Let it be known that I am not afraid of girls, but just being in a situation with another human, would not allow any mental mood to progress. I wouldn't experience mental arousal because the anxiety would shut down any sexual thought without even knowing. I know I am going out on a limb here, but I can't find any faults with it. I guess it wouldn't be a severe anxiety, but enough to not let any sexual thought run through my mind, which would cause infrequent moods with my girlfriend. I guess I am going to my doctor. Link to comment
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