Feeling empty inside

[lonelyguy]

Hello there fellow enotaloners, these past few days have felt so strange to me. I can't seem to understand whats bothering me though. I try do things that I'd have fun doing such as playing games or guitar which is great but for some reason its not working. I don't really understand what bothers me inside I just feel saddened inside somehow. Does this ever happened to you guys?

[puff.tm.dragon]

Yes, you're realizing you want more in life.

[Doctor Smurf]

Its happened to me before several times - ends quickly some times, other times not. Usually happens to me when I'm either exhausted, or when big changes are happening!

 

Doc

[lonelyguy]

I have no idea what to do

[chigal28]

Has this ever happened to you before? If so, did you do something to change it, or did it just pass after some time?

[lonelyguy]

Not sure, its probably happened before but its very rare. I usually feel really happy most of the time, even if I have nothing to do I dont get mad or sad or anything about it which is why I don't understand.

[lonelyguy]

It could be because I'm always alone but im not sure.

[chigal28]

Well, here are some thoughts I have for you...hope they help, at least a bit.

 

If you are pretty much always feeling happy, that is great, but it's not ALWAYS going to be like that, ya know? Human emotions are funny things...sometimes we can be trucking along happily, all is well, and suddenly--boom. We feel sad, or lonely, and we're not sure why. Maybe it's an indicator to do a bit of self-assessment...is it time for a change in life? Maybe the fact that you're always happy means you haven't really taken any risks or tried anything new lately, and that's got you feeling empty or down. Maybe that's why the things that usually cheer you up and fulfill you just aren't cutting it at the moment--it's life's way of showing you it might be time to try something new--shake things up a bit.

 

Also...you say this might have happened before, even if you don't necessarily remember details, so what I would do is really try to note how you're feeling--maybe even write it down--and in a couple of days or a week, revisit it. Do you feel any better? The same? Do that again in two weeks. These feelings might just pass on their own, or it might require some action on your part, but it's worth noting. Then if it happens again, you'll be armed with some past history and the tools to help you work through it.

 

I hope that helps, at least a little.

[radioheader]

you said you are always alone...is that by choice?

[Daddy Bear]

Do you remember what was going on when this feeling started, LG?

[sweetheart21]

You will have to figure out what it is that is making you feel down. If it is that you are lonely then start going out and meeting people. Is there anything else that you are upset about?

[lonelyguy]

nope nothing has happened these past few days to make me upset or anything it was just something spontaneous I woke up with one day, Monday to be exact.

[hey jo]

If you are pretty much always feeling happy, that is great, but it's not ALWAYS going to be like that, ya know? Human emotions are funny things...sometimes we can be trucking along happily, all is well, and suddenly--boom. We feel sad, or lonely, and we're not sure why. Maybe it's an indicator to do a bit of self-assessment...is it time for a change in life? Maybe the fact that you're always happy means you haven't really taken any risks or tried anything new lately, and that's got you feeling empty or down. Maybe that's why the things that usually cheer you up and fulfill you just aren't cutting it at the moment--it's life's way of showing you it might be time to try something new--shake things up a bit.

 

dude i think i know where you are coming from. i also experience feeling really down and alone all of a sudden. i agree with puff in that maybe you're not getting the most out of your life, or maybe something's lacking, which was quite true in my case.

 

chigal is right on, maybe it's about time that you rediscover yourself....like what your needs and your goals are, what your strengths are, and what things can make you happy. i suppose you're becoming even more mature, and you yearn for other things that will make you feel fulfilled as a person. that's how i look at it.

 

back when i was 19, a period when my social life was at its peak, i shifted to a different country, and i really felt down and alone because all my mates were overseas. but from that experience, i realised that i rellied too much on having company for happiness. now im learning how to enjoy my own company, and searching new sources of personal happiness.

 

goodluck.

 

BTW....Monday's always a bad day....at least to me.

[Daddy Bear]

I'm leaning toward puff's interpretation at this point myself. How are you feeling now?

[lonelyguy]

Hey actually I feel better now thanks for asking. I guess it was just a phase I was going through.