sparkly Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 what does it mean when you're talking to a guy and they're looking at you and occasionally they'll look to the side and then down and then look back up at a girl? Link to comment
sweetheart21 Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 It could mean lots of different things. What was his body language like? If he was also turning away from you it could mean he was uncomfortable and wants to leave. If he seemed interesting in the conversation then he is probably just a bit shy and doesnt like eye contact. Or sometimes people look away for a second while they are thinking. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 Sometimes it could mean that his contact lenses are dry. At work (I assume this is the same guy) I am careful about not making steady eye contact in a way that could be misinterpreted. Have you explained to him that you did not mean to reject him when he asked you out? Link to comment
sparkly Posted November 30, 2006 Author Share Posted November 30, 2006 he wasn't turning away from me. he never really does when he's speaking to me. he faces me alot of the time when we're interacting.his whole body points toward me and sometimes he'll come and stand right beside me. i haven't told him anything. he gestures alot while talking to me too. Link to comment
atraceofblood Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 well I know for me, I get shy so that may be why some look to the side and stuff. I have been getting better at trying to maintain eye contact because sometimes I consciously think about it. I think it's best not to assume too much based on body language. Sure body language may say something, but it's also very ambiguous. Link to comment
Beec Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 I think you need to understand body language a lot better. Some elements of body langauge are universal. Prolonged eye contact either means sexual attraction or hostility almost always. Some elements are cultural. Women from Latin American cultures tend to have more "provocative" walks, but that is thought to be due to them lacking, historically, other means to attract. (What else do you do when you are not allowed out without an escort or guardian who keeps you fromt alking with the guys.) Space and the amount of it is very cultural. People in some cultures allow others to get closer to their bodies and make more physical contact with them. White Amercians and most Northern Europeans have similar body langauge. Southern Europeans differ, a bit, and other cultures differ much more. But diffierent areas of the U.S. also differ. A from New York man who is identical in many ways to a man from Texas, will not have the same body langauge. So, you need to look at the culture the person comes from and the body language tendencies of that culture. Also, look at the tendencies of men of his type. If you are talking with the type of guy who is a football-watching, beer-drinking frat guy, he will differ probably from a guy who is artsy and does yoga. Factor these things in, study body language so you can. The if you factor these thing sin, you will realize that we all have body langauge that is rather unique to us. The factors form layers and peeling off those layers will revela much, but you also need to just learn a persons. Now, this guy may do this because of how he feels about you, or he may just do this thing all the time to everyone he talks with. He may do it with all women because he does not feel comfortable talking with them. So think about that. Finally, you cannot and should not base interpretations on one thing. This things can happen for a few reasons, so when it happens look for what else he is doing. You want to see clusters to body langauge signals, not jsut one sign, but a few signs made all about the same time. And a number of the clusters is better than just one. If a woman looked at me, made eye contact, stuck her chest out and then looked down and to her right, I saw one cluster telling me she finds me attractive. But I would wait for more than one. So, if she then looks at me, makes eye contact, preens her hair, sticks out her breasts and looks down, I have cluster 2, and moving in is a fairly safe bet. One signal is nto enough, and you need to keep paying attention, as feelings are dynamic. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 Usually means he's thinking about something you said... i.e., looking 'inward' for a second to process things... then back at you again to connect. also could be shyness... prolonged eye contact for shy people is hard. or he could get distracted for a minute... when we're talking to someone, we have the actual conversation, then what's going through our head, so he could be listening to you and then thinking, 'gosh, her eyes are so pretty...' then he gets back on track again... Link to comment
sweetheart21 Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 he wasn't turning away from me. he never really does when he's speaking to me. he faces me alot of the time when we're interacting.his whole body points toward me and sometimes he'll come and stand right beside me. It definitely sounds like he likes you... but I'm not 100% sure how much. He may just like you as a friend. But standing right beside you is a good sign. Look for clusters of body language signals like beec said... Link to comment
sparkly Posted December 4, 2006 Author Share Posted December 4, 2006 well i have been looking in clusters. He points his body toward me, looks into my eyes longer than normal and gestures a lot while he's talking to me all at the same time. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted December 4, 2006 Share Posted December 4, 2006 How is that working for you - to analyze every aspect of his body language? Link to comment
Beec Posted December 4, 2006 Share Posted December 4, 2006 well i have been looking in clusters. He points his body toward me, looks into my eyes longer than normal and gestures a lot while he's talking to me all at the same time. OK, and what is your body langauge telling him? Is it telling him he should come and get it, or try to, or is it vague. Perhaps, you should arrange for sometime when you will be with him during which he can bust a move. You may need to offer some encouraging signs to get him to do that. Link to comment
sparkly Posted December 5, 2006 Author Share Posted December 5, 2006 well i don't know how i have been acting because because i pay more attention to his body language than i do my own. i do avoid eye contact sometimes because i am as nervous as hell. could this be what makes him think i'm not interested in him? Link to comment
Beec Posted December 5, 2006 Share Posted December 5, 2006 Well, pay attention. Smile, make eye contact, and touch him. Use your hands, touch his arms. Link to comment
FamousAmos Posted December 5, 2006 Share Posted December 5, 2006 i do that alot, when i talk to girls, i look at her and look away. because i dont want her to feel uncomftable by me staring into her face Link to comment
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