herewegoagain Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 GF hangs out with lesbians. Concerned that she is gay/bi. Comments appreciated Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 How does she treat you? Link to comment
confused25 Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 She may be bi, but does it matter? I don't think she's showing any clear signs that she's cheating on you. The calling her former roomate thing is not strange, I used to call my bestfriend like everyday and she lives only 15 min from me! Link to comment
herewegoagain Posted October 30, 2006 Author Share Posted October 30, 2006 Well if she is bi, of course it would matter. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 Why? Do you have a problem with people who are attracted to the same sex? Being bi does not mean she needs more than one partner or is a cheater. Link to comment
confused25 Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 It matters because you're worried that she might be attracted to her "girlfriends"?? If so, then that means that you shouldn't have any female friends then because that means you are also likely to cheat on her with somebody of the opposite sex. Link to comment
texami Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 have you asked her if she's ever had a girlfriend or been with a girl? are you more concerned that you guys don't have sex? what would you do if she was bi? it sounds like you don't want that to be the case?? you guys are just getting to really know each other, and i don't think it would be unusual if you were curious about her sexual orientation... if you feel like you need to know, i would just ask. Link to comment
jimthzz Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 You are wondering why they don't have sex, especially since she stays so involved with these other people, females or not. If after several months you two have only kissed, and you are full-grown adults, I would have wonder if you are romantically involved. Maybe she just thinks of your "relationship" differently than you do. Are you two merely friends without benefits? Link to comment
jaiva Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 I have lesbian friends and I'm not bi or lesbian. I call my lesbian friends and one of them spends the night at times when we go out. Just because she calls her female friends all the time and just because they hang out doesn't make her a lesbian. If you want to know if she's also interested in females just ask her. Don't assume. I attempted to break up the word assume into 3 different words so that you'll get my point but they blocked it out. So don't make a butt of yourself by assuming. Jaiva Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 At that age and being together that length of time it would seem that sex would have happened. I dont know if she is lesbian or bisexual but the no sex in 4 months would cause me to think that something is wrong. As to what that exactly is I have no idea but I would definitely talk to her about it. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 Then ask her. And there are many reasons your realtionship hasn't become sexual yet. Link to comment
herewegoagain Posted October 30, 2006 Author Share Posted October 30, 2006 agent - i'm not sure whatyou meant by that comment. Please explain Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 she might have certain views on when to start having sex with someone, she might be waiting till the time is right, she might be shy, she might have had a bad experience, she might have an infection... there are many other reasons than not being a lesbian. Personally if I like someone and want to date them properly, then the route to being sexual isn't particularly short. Ultimately, we can assume and whitter all we like, your gf is the only one you can talk to and actually get some definitive answers from. Link to comment
herewegoagain Posted October 30, 2006 Author Share Posted October 30, 2006 agent - thanks - i see what you are saying now. Yes there could be other reasons, and the ones you mentioned were the same reasons that i had in the back od my mind. thanks Link to comment
herewegoagain Posted October 30, 2006 Author Share Posted October 30, 2006 Examining how I really feel, I guess what really bothers me is the whole thing:1) We haven't did it yet or even close to it2) she hangs out with lesbians Link to comment
Juliana Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 So you think she's a lesbian. Put the moves on her. You'll find out. Link to comment
AntiLove_SuperStar Posted October 31, 2006 Share Posted October 31, 2006 Well, I'm bisexual to the extent that I'd say I was 75% into girls, 25% into guys. Until recently when I dropped off the social radar, I hung out with several female bisexuals/lesbians. Even shared a double bed overnight on occasion..and I have a boyfriend of 1 yr + who I have been TOTALLY faithful to. So I'd say it varies from individual to individual. Link to comment
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