To Guys, what do you think of inexperienced girls?

[Blured]

Is it true all guys would want a vixen who knows exactly what she's doing?

If so, I may just have to live by myself in a cave somewhere..

[PRSOV]

depends on a number of things it can be good and bad.

[rose2summer]

Well, I am female, but your post caught my eye,

 

And I find that men appreciate that I am "inexperienced" in the sense of the number of partners,

 

Because then they can be the educators and you are more open to learning,

 

Hugs,

 

Rose

[Blured]

I'll give more information..

I'm 17 in a month and have never kissed, or dated, etc. Is this seen as a bad thing?

[rose2summer]

I was 19 when I had my first kiss, date, and I am happy I waited that long,

 

Best to save it for the right man, than to dispense freely

 

Rose

[Dako]

Are you kind, intelligent, interesting, charming, warm, funny, adventurous, curious, affectionate, confident, goofy, active, etc? Couple those with a sex drive, and you're all set.

 

Sex isn't rocket science, and learning is fun with someone who cares for you.

[Scout]

Is it true all guys would want a vixen who knows exactly what she's doing?

If so, I may just have to live by myself in a cave somewhere..

 

A lot of this would depend on the person's age. Do you mind if I ask how old you are?

[AntiLove_SuperStar]

If every guy wanted an experienced girl and wouldn't accept a virgin, how would ANYONE get to have sex.....?

 

On a personal note, I made sure I gave the guy I lost my conventional/intercourse virginity to the impression I had had not...a LOT of sex, but certainly that I was experienced.

 

I did this because I knew he didn't feel worthy of sleeping with me and would NOT have liked to have thought of himself as being the first one. (He had very very low self esteem).

 

Because, hang modesty, I'm a good actress etc, I pulled it off, he never suspected, and we were both much happier, I guarantee, than if he'd have known it was my first time.

 

Notes: 1) It wasn't his, I was his second 2) I only half lied - I had had many relationships/foreplay experiences, I just hadn't met anyone I wanted to have full sex with.

 

So.

[quietgrl]

I never been kiss or been on a date with a man but i do think most men value sex over verbal intimacy.Everytime i bring up the subject sex,dating and commitment with men on online forums.I get the same answers.

I'm getting ready to pick out my cave very soon.I keep hearing men say they want good women but their action say otherwise.Most men want the experience chick who's willing to give them sex in a heart beat.I haven't seen a man prove my statement wrong.

[New_Horizons]

NOOO! I am a virgin guy and I would LOVE to get a virgin girl. I think the whole "I teach you" or "you teach me" is nonsense. It's not rocket science. It's fun learning together. It's like travelling. It's fun travelling with your significant other to a new country and exploring the sights, the smells, etc. It's NOT fun if your SO take the reins and knows exactly where to take you and what to do. It feels more like a guided tour, not an adventure.

[HopelesslyLovely]

I'd like an inexperienced girl just because I'm a bit of a traditionalist (brought up that way), and I wish everyone was innocent. Obviously, almost nobody is innocent, so finding someone who is would be great!

 

I guess this also has to do with my own inexperience, and desire to share my "first time" with someone else.

[Nameless006]

as a guy, I know that I'd prefer my girl not to be the town bicycle, It's more special when there's less. I'm not into casual sex, but I know if I was, if I was just looking for a "booty call" I'd want a more experienced girl, or if I was just in a relationship for sex and sex only, I'd want experience, but if I'm looking for love, I would want that person to have had a lot less experience.

 

Since I'm not into casual sex, nor am I a sex freak, I prefer my women to have less experience.

 

Everyone can learn, every single person remembers their first. Sometimes those learning moments are a lot more special in the end than a random night of pleasure.

[SquareWheel]

Actually, Blured, I'm not sure that guys all want experienced women. I think we all have two different ideals in partners, the ones who excite when we're sowing our wild oats and the ones we want to marry when we're ready to settle down. I think of it as the sports cars versus the minivans.

 

I suspect it's mostly the young guys still governed by their hormones who want the Ferraris. But when they're ready to settle down they develop a virgin fetish. (I've always heard that most men want to marry a woman just like their mother.)

 

Whichever type you are, whether this is good or bad depends on whether you want a thrill ride or a relationship.

 

But at any age or any experience level, there's certainly no shortage of guys who appreciate and admire inexperienced women. I've posted before offering my selling points for virginal men, and they apply equally to virginal women, so use them if you think they'll help.

 

I think the guy's personality type is also a factor. It seems to be the more dominant type A guys who want more reserved/modest/inexperienced women, and the the more passive or submissive type B personalities who are attracted to the femme fatales.

 

Which type of guy are you attracted to?

[MystikalDawn]

I completely agree with New Horizons. I'm a 17 year old guy whose never hard sex before...Personally I would prefer to lose my virginity with an inexperienced girl...mainly because I won't feel stupid and embarased if I don't do something right because I know that she will know what it's like and understand.

[Luke Skywalker]

For a relationship/marriage I'd prefer inexerienced virgin girls who preferably (but not necessarily) have never kissed (unlikely at 30 y/o), but that is the tendency of preference.

 

For a casual sex I'd would not care if the girl is experienced or inexperienced, although usually 'easy girls or hookers or 'sympathy sex' (supplicating to an experienced girl by intimate section ads to 'deflower me')' are often invisioned as sex partners in that category. That is 'fantasy' like, however, and has never happened as I'm still a virgin (except the porn issue), but it just seems harder to 'objectify' someone as a sex object that you want as a relationship/marriage as more love is at play. While someone that has a reputation of easy virtue and is indiscriminate to anyone who shows interest is more likely to be objectified and seen as an easy casual encounter.

[New_Horizons]

Basically it boils down to this:

 

Lose virginity (in casual sex) and you have now crossed the barrier. You are now 'free' to date all kinds of girls. But you can't ask for a virgin girl anymore without seeming hypocritical (sad irony).

 

Remain virgin and you still have the ability to openly proclaim your desire for a virgin girl. The risk is that you may never find one and go to your grave a virgin bachelor.