Is he trying to make me jealous?

[disneyfan5]

I broke up with my ex-boyfriend after I found out that he had never broken up with his previous girlfriend. She moved to the other side of the country and they rarely see each other. Only twice in the year since she moved. He insisted she wasn't really his girlfriend anymore. To make a long story short, it really bothered me and I wasn't interested in being in that situation with him. I told him how wrong he was and that she deserved to know the truth and I told her. This guys had AGGRESSIVELY persued me for a long time before we started dating and he really liked me ALOT. I was not as interested in him as he was in me. Well after we broke up and I told her he was furious with me. He then kept telling me she was the one he wanted to be with and that he was happy with her. This after he could not stop smiling when he was with me and telling me repeatedly how he had not been that happy in a long time and that he wanted to be with me forever and all sorts of stuff like that. I have to see him from time to time and he keeps throwing her up in my face and I didn't think much about it at 1st because I really didn't care because I was NOT interested in dating someone else's boyfriend but the more I think about it it makes me wonder if he is trying to make me jealous or something.

[Süsser Tod]

No, he is trying to put you down and hurt you because he is mad at you.

 

 

However, why do you even care? Do you seriously want to keep dating someone that can lie to you like that, and lie to the other girl like that???

[mystik]

I really didn't care because I was interested in dating someone else's boyfriend but the more I think about it it makes me wonder if he is trying to make me jealous or something.

 

Wrong..wrong...wrong. Someone else's boyfriend? Uninterest yourself immediately. This is completely unfair to that someone else. You feel it was wrong of your boyfriend to not tell his ex they had broken up.... liking someone who is currently a relationship is just as bad if you are planning on actively doing something about it.

 

I don't think your ex is trying to make you jealous. I think he wanted the both of you and since he couldn't have you, he has himself believing he wanted her in the first place. Then you went and ruined that (for him) too. He just wants to blame all his loses/problems on you...to him it just seems like you took two things he wanted from him. Is she still with him? If you have to see him, just tell him he brought this on himself and you no longer want to hear it...and then ignore him. Besides, why do you care?

[itsallgrand]

His poor fat ego is bruised. He's just being a dink. Forget about him.

Also, forget about someone else's bf!

[ocrob]

Yes, this guy is a jerk. Most of us guys crumble and chase after the woman that broke up with us. He is one of those egotistical guys and is playing with you. Just tell him he is not worth you time and go NC.

[disneyfan5]

Oops, sorry I missed a crucial word. I meant NOT interested in someone else's boyfriend. Although I thought the rest of my post made that clear but maybe not.

[mystik]

Oops, sorry I missed a crucial word. I meant NOT interested in someone else's boyfriend. Although I thought the rest of my post made that clear but maybe not.

 

ahh that makes so much more sense lol. Yeah that missing word completely changes the context of it.

 

Anyway, yeah this guy is just angry that he went from having two girlfriends to none. You're better off without him...but you already know that!

[disneyfan5]

No, he is trying to put you down and hurt you because he is mad at you.

 

 

However, why do you even care? Do you seriously want to keep dating someone that can lie to you like that, and lie to the other girl like that???

As I stated in my original post, I broke up with him. We are no longer dating and I told her that he had been dating me. I couldn't handle the lying and cheating because I would never be able to trust him. I found out AFTER we broke up about some other lies he told me too. Not about other girls, just other things about himself.

 

I'm getting lots of different opinions on what he is doing, I can't decide either. I don't know if he is trying to make me jealous or if he is trying to hurt me but either way it isn't working. I just can't quite figure him out. I haven't dealt with someone like him before. The one thing I know is he is really mad that I told her the truth but he got what he deserved. If he couldn't handle the consequences then he should have been cheating on her. He should be thankful that I was vague with her and didn't provide many details.

[disneyfan5]

ahh that makes so much more sense lol. Yeah that missing word completely changes the context of it.

 

Anyway, yeah this guy is just angry that he went from having two girlfriends to none. You're better off without him...but you already know that!

LOL. Sorry! She is still with him, at least for now. After she confronted him about me he backed up everything I said and admitted it and she still is with him. For the life of me I can't understand why. I wouldn't be able to trust him living 2000 miles away. I doubt it will last though. I have also wondered if he is trying to convince himself that she is what he really wanted to make himself feel better or maybe to try to hurt me he is just telling me that. Funny thing is he told me a while back when we were dating before I found out that he didn't like drama and didn't believe in cheating and he has created drama and WAS cheating. I reminded him when I found out that he told me he didn't believe in cheating and he said he still didn't and I told him that was exactly what he was doing and that it was wrong.

[mystik]

Unfortunately, some people are just weaker than others when it comes to what they think is "love." Just be glad you're so much stronger than that! And you're right, that isn't going to last. Now he actuallys KNOWS he can get away with it, and I doubt he will stay faithful. This is certainly not going to last.

[disneyfan5]

Unfortunately, some people are just weaker than others when it comes to what they think is "love." Just be glad you're so much stronger than that! And you're right, that isn't going to last. Now he actuallys KNOWS he can get away with it, and I doubt he will stay faithful. This is certainly not going to last.

To prove something to myself I annonymously sent him a message thru email to see how he would react and he took the bait and invited me to chat with him thru IM. The very 1st chat, not knowing it was me he asked me out!! He finally figured out it was me after several days of me dropping hints. He had proven my point that he was a cheater. I sent her a transcript of the entire 1st chat which lasted over 2 hours a few weeks ago and she confronted him again. He lied and told her he knew it was me all along. He didn't have a clue until the last day we chatted and I admitted it was me. She said she was confused but again I think she is still going to stay with him. She is asking for trouble but that is her problem. I have to admit I enjoyed busting him during the chat. LOL!! It was mean but he deserved it.

[Süsser Tod]

There are some people that will tolerate that kind of abuse no matter what. Be thankfull you are not one of them.

 

 

There was this girl in the University, her boyfriend cheated on her. One day I found he left his e-mail open on a computer. Found an e-mail he sent to a friend telling how great the relationship was with the second girl and how dumb, boring, etc this girl was.

 

I forwarded it to her. She broke down, only to get back with him one week later. I haven't seen her in 5 years, but last I knew, they were still together, go figure.

[disneyfan5]

It's crazy isn't it?? I can't understand why she would want to stay with someone that cheated on her when she lives so far away. He WILL do it again. She wrote me back today and said she asks more questions than she normally does and watches him more closely and asked me to not talk to him (she didn't say it ugly). I got the impression she was a little concerned about him still having to see me from time to time. I don't think she is worried about me but worried about him. I can't imagine how she is going to deal with this when she goes back home. I think it has really caused some problems for them.

[disneyfan5]

Oh boy!! She just responded to my message back to her telling her that I didn't have anything to say to him and that he was so mad at me for telling her that I doubt he would talk to me anyway. She said she didn't think he was that mad at me for telling her and that I kinda helped him out so that it was easier for him to tell her about it. I didn't tell her but if I hadn't told her myself she would never have known because he never would have told her himself. If I hadn't told her he would still be trying to be with me. I think she is very naive. He got very nasty with me after I told her and he had NEVER been that way with me before. I didn't tell her that. I was nice and civil and made it clear to her that I didn't want him. She seems to think that getting everything out in the open will make him stop his games. I think he will be on his best behavior for right now but once things cool down and she goes back home he will be trying it again.

[Süsser Tod]

Well, whatever happens with them, not of your bussines. Be thankfull you got rid of that scum.

[disneyfan5]

She sent me an email again today asking me to let her know if he does anything else like this and to not let him. LOL!! Like I could stop him. I guess she thinks I will be her eyes and ears after she goes back home. He WILL do it again but I am finished. Even if I saw it I would not get involved and mind my own business because it doesn't concern me anymore.