indecisive ex-boyfriend

[veggie2123]

I dated this guy for two months, and then he broke up with me claiming that his friends talked him into it, but later telling me that he couldn't commit to somebody that he didn't feel he could get close to. About two months later, he went out with my friend and hurt her, to the point where she broke down into tears in school, so I talked her into breaking up with him. She felt that I just wanted him back, but later decided I was truly just being a friend. Now this guy, let's call him Mike, has tried to get back with me since he broke up with me, and only lately have I allowed him the chance. I thought he needed to work for the chance since last time we broke up he did it in a very bad way (I won't go into it) and I didn't eat or sleep much for a week. Now I'm not a very emotional person, so let's just say that took a lot of pain to do that to me, and it's never happened before or again. He calls me atleast once a day and tells me at the end of each phone call how much he loves me, and yesterday he asked me out. I said yes, and then later that day he called me and said he felt very trapped and that he couldn't do this. I told him he was going to lose me if he ever does anything that hurts me again when he did this, and he said he didn't want to lose me, and most of the time he wants to commit to me, but sometimes he's in a different mood and he feels trapped under commitment. I've been in love with this guy for about a year, and he was the first person I danced with, kiss, held hands with, cuddled up with, etc. So I don't really want to lose him...but what should I do? No matter what I have three classes with him all next school year, so I have to see him... but I can't really get myself out...can anybody help? Thanks a lot.

[DealingWithIt]

obviously this guy doesn't know what he wants so if i were you, just move on and find someone who can treat you much better and knows that he only wants to be with you. i know you feel strongly about this guy but if he is treating you like crap then why keep holding on?

[SexyMan9999]

I know what a first love feels like and yes its a new thing where both members are inexpierenced... but this man is taking things about 5 steps too far. If you can really stomach it, give him one last chance but make it your final one, no more emotional roller coaster ride for you. If not move on and leave this lemon behind. Remember, just because two people are in love doesn't mean they should be together.