CutiePa2T Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 I'm 17 and this hot guy lykes me but he's 23 lol. And cuz like he's a grown man and im still a little girl so isnt he lyk a pedophile?! Link to comment
Carnatic Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 does he know you're 17, cos quite often it's diffult to tell? Either way it won't make him a paedophile... you may be young but you have reached sexual maturity and you are of legal age (probably, depends what country you are in I suppose)... paedophiles have a fetish for yound children prior to reaching sexual maturity. Still there are other social issues with a 23 year old guy dating a 17 year old girl... it's stigmatised, and words like 'cradle-snatcher' may be used... I think he'd maybe be seen as sleazy rather than perverted. So while he isn't a paedophile or anything, I'd advise extreme caution and say it would be better to stick to guys closer to your own age. Link to comment
candykisses Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 lol when i was 17 this guy liked me and he was around 22 or 23 so my advice yes he's a pedophile and stay far far away unless you want to find out what he really wants which by then will be too late... lol good luck Link to comment
CarnelianButterfly Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 As you are 17 and in most states the age of consent is 16, it's not pedophilia. Pedophiles target pre-pubescent children, not near adult age post puberty individuals. Link to comment
candykisses Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 lol i don't think she's asking if he's a pedophile literally it's just one of those exaggerative words we use Link to comment
Meow18 Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 Pedophiles are sexually attracted to children. You are not a child. In other words, you are more adult-like developed in your body and your maturity. In my opinion, it's not really that creepy. Perhaps you just look older for your age? Perhaps you are just an attractive person? But I would also be careful. He could be after just sex. And in that case, he's just a jerk. And depending on where you are from, it could be illegal. But to answer your question, no he's not a pedophile. Link to comment
CutiePa2T Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 lol well i guess i should say that were really good friends, ive known him like a year & we talk a lot and hes really cool i like him a lot. but im still like a LiL guRL and he shouldnt be looking at me im yung enough to be his daughtrer lol!! Link to comment
CutiePa2T Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 Pedophiles are sexually attracted to children. You are not a child. In other words, you are more adult-like developed in your body and your maturity. In my opinion, it's not really that creepy. Perhaps you just look older for your age? Perhaps you are just an attractive person? But I would also be careful. He could be after just sex. And in that case, he's just a jerk. And depending on where you are from, it could be illegal. But to answer your question, no he's not a pedophile. i M attractive lol mostpeople think im 20 but he knows im 17 maybe im just immature for my age hahaah. Link to comment
Meow18 Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 Well, if you look older than 17, then you shouldn't worry about him being a pedophile. And even if you didn't look older, 17 is still not a child. Link to comment
CutiePa2T Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 oh. i guess lik... im being 2 harsh on him then? Link to comment
miracle29 Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 When will you be 18. Id its just around the corner and it makes you more comfortable then I'd say wait and then date him. Surely you know that at that age..you are safe. Link to comment
CutiePa2T Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 i'll be 18 in 8 months. Link to comment
miracle29 Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 urrrrrr that is a whittle long Link to comment
CutiePa2T Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 i kno thats y hes like a molester. Link to comment
CutiePa2T Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 btw 16 is legal age where i am Link to comment
Daddy Bear Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 my first wife was 17, and i had no such tendencies whatsoever. of course, i was 15 at the time, so technically she was an older woman... in other words: pedophilia, in my definition, is not about the legal age of consent; it is a disordered, sociopathic compulsion to consume the fruit from the tree of humanity before it is anywhere near ripe. Link to comment
Meow18 Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 Has this guy tried anything with you? Or does he just have a crush on you? Link to comment
CutiePa2T Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 my first wife was 17, and i had no such tendencies whatsoever. of course, i was 15 at the time, so technically she was an older woman... in other words: pedophilia, in my definition, is not about the legal age of consent; it is a disordered, sociopathic compulsion to consume the fruit from the tree of humanity before it is anywhere near ripe. So yu mean basically like, young kids? Has this guy tried anything with you? Or does he just have a crush on you? Nah, like I said we've been frends for a yr & he'snever tried anything sexual, if thats what u mean. Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 So yu mean basically like, young kids? Yes. lol well i guess i should say that were really good friends, ive known him like a year & we talk a lot and hes really cool i like him a lot. but im still like a LiL guRL and he shouldnt be looking at me im yung enough to be his daughtrer lol!! Not quite.... I met the guy I'm pretty much going to be in love forever with when I was 17 and he was 26. We hung out and made a friendship and had some great times. I was 20 when he finally asked me out. (and then we blew it, but thats another thread..) At 17 I'm guessing that you're pretty much physically a mature female. If he's attracted to you physically then he's just being a guy. How he handles that attraction is how you recognise if he's a sleaze bag or not.. If you feel uncomfortable with the attention then maybe you could have a chat with him about it. Link to comment
CutiePa2T Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 Yes. Not quite.... I met the guy I'm pretty much going to be in love forever with when I was 17 and he was 26. We hung out and made a friendship and had some great times. I was 20 when he finally asked me out. (and then we blew it, but thats another thread..) At 17 I'm guessing that you're pretty much physically a mature female. If he's attracted to you physically then he's just being a guy. How he handles that attraction is how you recognise if he's a sleaze bag or not.. If you feel uncomfortable with the attention then maybe you could have a chat with him about it. Aw, im sry things didnt work out 4 u. I dont think i could tell him, i would feel too bad. He's never ever madea sexual pass at me or put me in an uncomfortable position..the only thingz that lyk make me think hes interested r how he always tells me he thinx imbeautiful and he sketched a pic ofme! hes the nicest &most respectful guy ever but i wanted 2 make sur he wasn't out of line. Link to comment
CutiePa2T Posted May 10, 2006 Author Share Posted May 10, 2006 Haha, the title of my thred changed?! Link to comment
melrich Posted May 10, 2006 Share Posted May 10, 2006 Haha, the title of my thred changed?! Yes I changed it. This is clearly not about pedophilia. Pedophilia is a paraphilia of being primarily or exclusively sexually attracted to pre-pubescent children. The title was sensationalist and misleading and the new title better describes the issue discussed in the thread. Link to comment
Daddy Bear Posted May 11, 2006 Share Posted May 11, 2006 something smells fishy here... what 17-year old would call herself a "little girl" and think a 23-year old was a deviant for showing her some attention? how did "CutiePa2T", on 'her' first day here, find another member's thread about a 23-year old guy and a 17-year old girl... and post in it within one minute of creating this thread? 'she' also made another post in a third thread that could be interpreted in a highly discomforting way, and that is the extent of 'her' participation! and the spelling, etc., is just WAY, WAY over the top. no, no, no... this is not what it appears to be, i'm sure of it. Link to comment
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