He wants to come over

[Pixiemeat]

Met a guy on Friday night, swapped numbers, said we'd keep in touch. He called yesterday and we said we'd go out next week sometime. He wants to come over to mine for food - what does this mean? I'm not too keen, we don't know each other at all well, is him coming over to my place a booty call?

 

Thanks guys.

[Blue Skittles]

I wouldn't go for it. Tell him something else came up. He wants to come over to your house for food??? Sounds like a booty call to me. Oh, and what he can't take you out anywhere? I wouldn't go for a guy like that, personally.

[Süsser Tod]

No, no no no, and more no!

 

You don't know him, you can't tell if the guy could turn into a real freak stalker or worse.

 

If he doesn't want to go through the usual dating process, then you should never talk to him again.

[Goodfun88]

Its not a booty call if you don't give him any booty! Seems strange that he wants to come over for food though. Wait till he takes you out and see what happens!

[Iceman26]

Its not a booty call if you don't give him any booty! Seems strange that he wants to come over for food though. Wait till he takes you out and see what happens!

 

I agree. Be straight up with him and tell him that he isn't coming over to your place for a first date, and suggest going out somewhere instead.

 

That is pretty weird of him to suggest food over at your place. Maybe he's a cheapskate.

[RayKay]

I suggest you stick to dates OUTSIDE the home the first few times.

 

It's too easy to get carried away at home, and also kinda sets a standard for the relationship....why isn't he willing to take you out and show you off for example?

[Scout]

I agree with all the advice above. The next time you talk to him, ask him if he would like to go out to eat or for coffee/drinks instead. If he hedges on that, then I would simply tell him, I prefer to have a few dates with someone outside my house first, if you don't mind. If he still hedges, I strongly advise you cut contact with this guy and move on to someone who would clearly understand a first date at home is inappropriate.

 

Please, always keep your wellbeing and safety at the top of your priorities.

[jabele]

Yeah, thats really shady he's inviting himself over. Maybe suggest going out for some food...then, if you feel comfortable, you can go back to your place...but I wouldn't necessarily recommend that. Give it some time

[renaissancewoman101]

I agree with the other posters, I would not let him come over to my place for a first date. What if he turns out to be some axe wielding murderer. You can never be sure nowadays. I usually like to meet someone at a coffee shop or eating place for lunch on a first date. That way, we can see if we click or not and he doesnt know where I live. I live alone and I dont need a weirdo guy showing up on my doorstep.

[kellbell]

Agreed with all the posters. No, no, no. I would EXTREMELY suspicious when a man whom I hardly know insiting coming over my house. Your best bet is to stick to public places for a while. Good luck and be safe.

[Backstroke03]

Agree with the crowd here, first dates should be out in public. Safer for everyone involved, and gives you a much easier out if things don't go well.

[AzureSkyes69]

If u want to see him do it in public not at your place.

It can be a scary world out there take precausions to take care of yourself.Make sure you know someone for a little while,go on some dates alone & also with friends feel him out first (and no I am not being fresh)

haha but seriously you do need to be careful.

[MrMilk]

I agree with everything that's said. You yourself wrote that you're not comfortable about the situation. If you're not comfortable, then that's reason enough not to do what he's suggesting.

 

But even if you weren't uncomfortable, I'd advise you against letting him come over when you barely know him.

 

Good luck!

[Pixiemeat]

Thanks a lot guys, feel so stupid for asking the question! I'm not comfortable with it, so it's definitely going to have to be a date outside my place. And if he doesn't like it then stuff it!

[Scout]

That's the spirit Pixie!

[kellbell]

Hey it was NOT a stupid question. That is what we are all here for. I hope everything works out for ya!

[Scout]

It certainly was not a stupid question, and I'm thankful you asked it!