Sexually Attracted --but married

[mrsmarvl]

Hi everyone! I am really sexually attracted to this gentleman at my job, but Im married, and I dont know what to do help I know its wrong to feel this way. I guess i like the attention.

[Lady Bugg]

It's normal to feel attracted to other people...even if you are married. First and foremost you are HUMAN. Sometimes it's FUN to flirt..as long as that's where it ends. I see nothing wrong with harmless flirting.

[Iceman26]

Evaluate your feelings on yourself, your spouse, and your marriage and figure out why it is you find yourself attracted to someone else as a married woman. Is there something you are not getting out of your marriage?

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

I don't think it's wrong to feel the attraction, but you should really leave it right there. If you ever want to date another man, you should first get divorced, before you do anything, emotionally or otherwise.

[itsallgrand]

It's not wrong to feel the way you, so long as you haven't acted on it. I agree that ..hey, you are human,...we don't stop feeling attraction to other people just because we're in a relationship.

 

I agree to evaluating your relationship with your hubby. You said "I guess I like the attention" from this guy at work.

Are you feeling like you are not getting enough attention from your hub?

Are you not getting what you need? Are you unhappy?

Is there a lot of stress at home?

 

Good luck on figuring this out. Congrats on catching yourself before the attraction gets out of hand. Check out this forum for stories of ....AFTER people have gone through with these feelings of attraction......it very very rarely works out well.

[TiredMan]

Well, as you already know, from what I said, there are other factors involved.

[mrsmarvl]

No Im not getting what i need at home , cant remember the last time I was touched or kissed. And Im sure that all I see in this gentleman is just all that. Im a bad person for even thinking like Im thinking!! I think I just need alittle lovin its been awhile since anything, Im old but not dead!! And he (The guy at work) goes out of his way to converse with me, , and he knows Im married.

[mrsmarvl]

Yes out of all the people on this baord you know better than anyone! Right Buddy?

[Iceman26]

No Im not getting what i need at home

 

Have you tried talking with your husband? If so, what does he say when you talk to him?

[mrsmarvl]

tried for a while now doesnt work.

[Iceman26]

What is his reaction when you try and tell him how you feel? Do you think he would be open to counseling?

[mrsmarvl]

Refuses to go to counseling and everytime I bring it up he get irritated and mad, so of course I let it go, until It bothers me again and I try and talk about it, and the same thing happens again, Like Tiredman said there are alot of things to consider in all this. Its just crazy and Im frustrated!

[TiredMan]

Yup and i replied.