To Text or not to text

[DN]

I would not. It doesn't really require a response.

[xblondyx]

yeah, true, ok. this is soo hard!

[DN]

Yeah, it is hard. But you have to tough it out or it will never get easier. Be strong and you will find that you will get over him much sooner.

 

Try to occupy your mind with other things- easier said than done but it does help.

[xblondyx]

ok. thanks grr he's just text me saying he's happy to be young free and single and he's glad we broke up. what a lovely thing to say lol!

[annie24]

yeah, I understand you can't do NC, but you can limit it! You two can stop texting each other, and when you do see each other, just be pleasant, like strangers.

 

I wouldn't respond to his text messages. There's nothing in them worth responding to.

 

If he says, "Let's get back together", that's the only message I would respond to.

[xblondyx]

your right! i'm moving on. in fact, someones already asking me out. its my ex ex. i'm not sure what to do though

[annie24]

hmmm.... did you two part on good terms? Who dumped whom? Was he good to you?

[xblondyx]

yea very good terms. we are still very good friends. i dumped him and he was good to me. it would be a ld relationship but im going down next month so i'll see him and once we are both driving we can see each other all of the time

[DN]

Don't go out with the ex-ex unless you are sure you really want him - not as way to get back at your ex. Don't use him in other words because you will end up hurting him and that is not fair.

[xblondyx]

i know. i wouldn't do that. they don't know each other anyway

[ElektraHere]

Blondy

 

Hello your answer to moving on is the text he sent you. Would you really want to get back together with this moron? Also the reason I think you want him around as a friend is because he was your first love. It just isn't realistic you would end up wanting more. Honestly if he were dating someone else and telling you about their relationship how would you really feel?

 

 

ok. thanks grr he's just text me saying he's happy to be young free and single and he's glad we broke up. what a lovely thing to say lol!

[xblondyx]

your right! he was my first big love. i'm now learning from my mistakes and it's making me into a stronger person and i think i've grown up a lot over the past two weeks

[ElektraHere]

Then if you have grown up then you know that this is over and it's time to move on. Delete him out of your phone, take and block him from your email and buddy list. It's hard but it is the only way to stop him from telling these ridiculous things to you.

[xblondyx]

ok. well i've deleted him from my phone. i don't really want to block him on MSN :S i'll delete him but i don't block people. we are all leaving school in may so i'd like to keep in contact with everyone you see, so i dont want to block him. but ive deleted him!

 

another problem is that he bought me some amazing christmas presents. he bought me a huge £30 me to you bear which has "special girlfriend" written on. obviously thats not true anymore but he said he wants me to keep it. it's currently on my bedside table but do you think it would be better for me to move it?

 

also, he bought me a gorgeous necklace which i used to wear everyday. i haven't worn it since we broke up but he said it was a gift and now belongs to me and i should still wear it. i just cant bring myself to. should i just put it in my memory box? that just seems a waste of £50 and it is a gorgeous necklace...

[annie24]

Keep the gifts. Just put them away somewhere. In a few years, when the bad feelings have passed, you may enjoy wearing the necklace again.

[ElektraHere]

Would someone who just got divorced wear their wedding ring? I don't think so and that costs more than your necklace. As for the bear put it away and include the necklace. In a year go back to that box and see if you really want to keep it.

[xblondyx]

Yeah. I'll put the necklace in my memory box and i'll put the bear on top of my wardrobe or something. in a few years i probably won't know him which will be a shame but i guess everyone moves on with their life

[annie24]

Really, just put everything away. I really do think in a few years, when you've moved on, you may be able to look at these things with fond memories.

[xblondyx]

ok thank you.

 

another problem (lol so many it's my school parents evening next week and i happen to know that me and my parents are going to be there at the same time as him and his parents. now, i was very fond of his parents and they were of me. if i do run into them, what should i do?

[xblondyx]

hmm im feeling down feel like i've lost everything and that i will never be loved again. i'm not the prettiest girl in the world and was very surprised when this guy had taken interest in me but now its completely over and i just feel drained

[keenan]

Hi...I kind of feeling like I'm butting in here, because you've already gotten so much great advice and have obviously made wonderful progress.

 

Try not to feel too down; you've handled this in a really great way and should be proud of yourself for being strong & graceful. I know it's hard, but hang on. You seem like a really sweet, fun, and level-headed person. You'll be loved again...probably sooner than you expect.

 

As for running into his parents, just be yourself. They like you and they'll be very nice to you. Remember: They're parents! They've lived through the world of dating and marriage and heartache, too, and they understand as well as anyone that these things happen.

[xblondyx]

you're right, thanks

[DN]

Hi...I kind of feeling like I'm butting in here, because you've already gotten so much great advice and have obviously made wonderful progress.

 

Try not to feel too down; you've handled this in a really great way and should be proud of yourself for being strong & graceful. I know it's hard, but hang on. You seem like a really sweet, fun, and level-headed person. You'll be loved again...probably sooner than you expect.

 

As for running into his parents, just be yourself. They like you and they'll be very nice to you. Remember: They're parents! They've lived through the world of dating and marriage and heartache, too, and they understand as well as anyone that these things happen.

 

That was a great "butt in". I agree with every word.

[xblondyx]

yup! cheers!

[xblondyx]

gosh im feeling really low tired bored and lonely. i hate my ex for this!