Morning_dew Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 This guy is clearly undeserving of ur care. Let him know u don't need him nor want him around. Even the word "undeserving" is a euphemism for how I truly want to describe this person. Link to comment
Hope75 Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 Girlfriend, I'm not surprised at all about this: He cares for 1 person and one person only, numero uno, HIMSELF. Glad you figured this out fairly early and hopefully have the brains not to take him back. Link to comment
coollady1957 Posted February 9, 2006 Share Posted February 9, 2006 Have you broken up with this guy yet or what? IF not, I would highly suggest you do it quickly. YOu are smart to have realized this was more than just "play fight' or "play roughness". This guy has some real issues with control and abuse. Yes for sure its time you leave this guy and this relationship. You deserve some one that respects you and does not treat you this way. I hope you post back saying that you have broken it off with him. Take care of yourself and dont let any guys do this to you ever again. Link to comment
KellyWyndham Posted February 11, 2006 Author Share Posted February 11, 2006 yeh i broke it off. he got angry and is being kind of eager now, calling me which is unusual for him. i miss him though. well actually i don't miss him, i miss the beginning of our relationship. i'm trying to forget the rest. he makes it so hard to stay strong, keeps making me think i'm overeacting and when he calls or texts he talks as though nothing's happened. weird? to be honest, i might just meet with him one last time on valentines day so i can get a sense of closure and just see him one more time. yeh, sounds like a bad decision but something i'm considering. but i do hate him, he's rude and selfish and just the worst guy i've ever met. but sometimes when i'm alone i find myself thinking about him. don't know why. Link to comment
Hope75 Posted February 11, 2006 Share Posted February 11, 2006 He's got you right where he wants you. By refusing to address how he behaves he makes it seem like it's all in your head... and you over reacted... which you did not. The guy is a pig and he knows it. You are going to do what you want to do but I am going to tell you that is a an absolute terrible idea to see him now... especially on Valentine's day, the day designed to make you forget what a jerk he is and take him back. That is exactly what will happen if you go and see him and I think you know it. You are "trying to forget" the rest of the relationship because then it will be easier to see him and take him back.... don't be weak girl, no one deserves to be treated the way that he treated you. Closure comes from within you, knowing that you made the right choice not to let some punk treat you like a piece of meat just because he is cute and popular. You don't need to see him to know this or get this. I hope you will use your good sense and NOT go to meet him. Think of yourself first and don't forget how he treated you like trash. If you keep that fresh you will be less likely to call him. Link to comment
ShySoul Posted February 12, 2006 Share Posted February 12, 2006 but i do hate him, he's rude and selfish and just the worst guy i've ever met. Keep repeating that to yourself. If he is the worst guy you know, why meet with him again? He is playing with your mind and trying to trick you into staying with him. Don't let him do it. It's understandable that you miss him and feel bad about how things went. But you have to see that this is his fault and you shouldn't be blaming yourself for it. You don't need to be with a person like that. You deserve a lot better. Link to comment
KellyWyndham Posted February 13, 2006 Author Share Posted February 13, 2006 Just want to say thankyou so much for the help here, i wont be seeing him tomorrow. I'm still quite weak (regretfully called him the other night) but I would'nt consider having any kind of relationship with him again. he decided to tell me that he had sex with another girl on friday night; this boy is unknowingly making it easier for me to let go. when i first posted this question i had no intention of breaking it off because i thought that what i got i deserved. i only wanted to know if i was overeacting in my concern over his behaviour but i've experienced alot of stimulating and inspiring messages that have given me the strength to end his abuse. u guys hit me with a reality check, that i am better than this. my self esteem is improving and i'm learning to respect myself because if i don't, how can i expect a guy to? THANKS AGAIN Link to comment
ShySoul Posted February 13, 2006 Share Posted February 13, 2006 Good going Kelly. Glad to see you have seen him for who he is and won't put up with it. In time you'll be over him and you will find someone better. Hang in there and take care. And telling you he slept with another girl? Not the brightest bulb in the box, is he? Link to comment
RayKay Posted February 13, 2006 Share Posted February 13, 2006 Reading your post almost had me jumping for joy (except for fact my coworkers would of wondered why I was so happy to be doing spreadsheets...). Believe me in the long run, if you can respect yourself you will be much better off for it! As for him, he sounds like an absolutely selfish jerk...and honey you do NOT deserve that. Link to comment
Hope75 Posted February 13, 2006 Share Posted February 13, 2006 Kelly, You sound like a very bright and intelligent and strong girl and I am very proud of you for not tolorating being treated this way. Keep up the good work, you are absolutely right that you have to learn to respect yourself and treat yourself that way, and when others see that, it will follow that they will treat you with respect too. Good going, girl!\\ Link to comment
avman Posted February 14, 2006 Share Posted February 14, 2006 Thats great Kelly. I'm very happy you've seen what he is truly doing and value yourself enough to get rid of him. You'll find someone much better, trust me. Link to comment
Morning_dew Posted February 24, 2006 Share Posted February 24, 2006 I went through something similar. Just get rid of that guy and make sure he knows its his loss. Never talk to him ever again, and you dont need to worry what he'll say about you to other people because they will eventually find out what type of idiot he is. Link to comment
Karibo Posted March 6, 2006 Share Posted March 6, 2006 Hiya I went through something similar and i understand how difficult it is to leave when they act all sweet and as if nothing has happened. But this sweet act is just that - an act, to try and reel you back in. Believe me if you put up with this any longer he will get worse and worse and I've found that even two years on from my bad relationship he is still pestering me and thinking i'm gunna run back to him like i did in the past. Im glad to hear you've kicked his stupid butt out of your life! Stay strong Link to comment
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