MovieGuy2828 Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 I've been talking with a girl who is a distance of 55 miles away on myspace now for 6 months, her personality matches mine exactly. We recently started dating and are now bf/gf and we're both very very happy. But now that i've been being close to her more i've started having dirty thoughts...and i wasnt before we met. I care for her so much omg. Everytime now i have a dirty thought, it is about her. Is it normal, should i tell her (no of course haha), i just need to know what to do how to react. Thanks Link to comment
Dregnought Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 Sorry to jump in unrelated, bt i added you to AIM,(im dregnought), and well basically it would be alot easier for me to talk to you more directly... On the other hand... It really depends on how close and comfotable you 2 are with each other. To give best advice i need to know u better, hence above ^^. Link to comment
cal_014 Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 always depends on the girl if ur going to tell her, some girls will take it as a compliment because u obviously think she is attractive and some girls will think its gross because u fantasize about certain things with her. but if ur a little sexual or really sexualy active with her idd say she would take it as a compliment. and believe me its normal it always happens to me with my missus. Link to comment
lillady898 Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 Just a quick question: Have you met her in person yet? Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 Yeah, have you two met in person yet? Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 I would say that given your particular situation it is normal to have "dirty thoughts" about your gf. Link to comment
MovieGuy2828 Posted January 19, 2006 Author Share Posted January 19, 2006 Ok well we have met in person, the first time was for just 15 minutes cause she surprised me at work, the second time was our first date which was 10 hours long..got to hold her hand, put my arm around her, kiss her hand, cheek, hugged for 10 minutes straight, and got to kiss her 3 times before i left. So yeah after all that closeness after none its kinda easy to see why i would be having thoughts like that about her now. I'm 21, shes 18, we are both attractive individuals and both virgins, lol. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 Like DayWalker said, having "dirty thoughts" about your gf is completely normal and natural. Link to comment
MovieGuy2828 Posted January 19, 2006 Author Share Posted January 19, 2006 We agreed our date was the perfect date, and the kisses pretty much killed all my nervousness, but then once i started having dirty thoughts about her i got nervous again, especially because i'm hanging out at her place for a while on saturday night when her parents arent home, and now i feel i'm gonna be nervous on if/when "lovemaking" shall occur, just like i was nervous about when our first kiss would occur. I have been so patient during the past 6 months and it has really paid off, and i shall continue to be, but when we hugged for 10 minutes we both said "it feels like i cant pull you close enough to me"...hence the thought of getting "even closer"....now she's in my thoughts everytime I masturbate now... Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 19, 2006 Share Posted January 19, 2006 well, take things one step at a time. All your emotions are normal. There are plenty of things to do inbetween kissing and lovemaking Link to comment
MovieGuy2828 Posted January 19, 2006 Author Share Posted January 19, 2006 O yes i know tons of things to do in between kissing and lovemaking, idk what the wink was for haha, but maaaan, i have the most powerful orgasms when i think about her Link to comment
ShySoul Posted January 20, 2006 Share Posted January 20, 2006 If you have that good a time thinking of her, I think its cause you really like her. There's nothing wrong with that. It's only a potential problem if you try to do something more with her. If the two of you aren't ready for more, then you shouldn't go there. Thinking of it is ok, doing it is different. If you are feeing bad for these thoughts, you aren't ready to do more and should take things slow for now. Your hormones may be saying go for it, but its best to enjoy everything else. Why do you think you feel this way? Is it that you haven't had feelings like this before, or this strong, and you are unsure of yourself? Or does this have something to do with what you've been taught and believe about sex? Link to comment
lillady898 Posted January 20, 2006 Share Posted January 20, 2006 It's completely normal. In fact, I think it'd actually be more odd if you didn't have these dirty thoughts. Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted January 20, 2006 Share Posted January 20, 2006 Your thoughts and feelings about your girlfriend are completely normal. It's called lust. I'm not saying lust is all there is to your relationship- because you seem to really genuinely like her too- but lust for your partner is a part of any healthy relationship. BellaDonna Link to comment
ShySoul Posted January 21, 2006 Share Posted January 21, 2006 Just make sure the lust doesn't become the focus of the relationship, that should be reserved for the love. But I don't think you have to worry about that. Link to comment
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