Self-defense justified?

[goldenglamour_birdy]

Hi people, wuts new tonite.

Alot to go here and yes I'm like in trouble now and yes I feel bad, didn't mean to, I just act out in defense, thats wut I do if I were to feel threaten again, I can defend myself without using any weapons. My b/f's friend says he gonna report me but wut about him who tried to forcely get inside. This is the story, me and my b/f of 3 years go to his friend' house just to have a talk and study for the big history exam. See we all got to the same university and have the same proff, but at different hours, they in the afternoon, and me in the morning. So anyways my b/f had to go for a while to buy his mother a present for her b-day. So me and his friend are left alone, we were suppsot to study for the exam and at some point he was like "This isn't helping me concentrate, can we study on the sofa and I was like "Ok, fine". Ok so we sat there and then I notice he didn't bring his textbook or notebook, so I was like "Well aren't we gonna review for the test". He was like "Yea, but can u come closer", I asked why. He say nothing, just come. Thats when he tries a force kiss which I back him up, I was like "What on earth u think ur doing, I have a b/f and his ur friend, I'm gonna tell him about this when he gets back". He say, "Oh no u won't, then he tries in his fail attempt to get on me, I say an attempt rape but what he didn't know is that I know all about self-defense, I been in maritial arts ever since 2nd grade. As I was acting out, I realize I din't stop, I really over did it, and yes off course I was very mad as I applied it against him. It also got to the point of him getting bite marks also, now he's in the hospital but say he's gonna report it. Still hasn't yet and no my b/f doesn't know about this, his friend told him something else. And no this isn't the first time I beat up a guy, it's the second. First it was with an ex who had his hands on me and in about 4 seconds he was on the ground bledding, before I broke up, I was like "U know something, u'll be the last guy to ever put a hand on me, cuz u just mess with the wrong person, and if u want some more I can give it, I got no problem". Haven't talk to him since. Really I'm the calmest and sweetest person, I'm not violent by nature, I'm there to talk too. And if I'm ever to get violent, it's only when someone puts a hand on me, even if it's a guy, I don't care, other than that , I don't hit.

But wut now, I never been in trouble with the law, I'll be ruined if he reports me, wut do I do people, this will go on my record for ever.

[VibratingRainbow]

I sympathise with you but its done now. If he does end up contacting the authorities regarding this then i can only suggest telling them exactly what you told us and nothing but the truth. I do not know the extent of his injuries but im sure especially concidering you are a women... no offence but that will be taken into account, that you will not be in too much trouble.

[Hope75]

Why don't you tell your boyfriend the truth, and press charges for attempted rape on him?

[goldenglamour_birdy]

Yes, I'll tell my b/f about it and yes I know, I can press charges against him, but wouldn't I also get in trouble for his injuries and the bite marks? That's wut I'm scare, if he reports me, im busted.

[Hope75]

That depends. If you were defending yourself against an attack you might not get in as much trouble as if he decides to press charges on you for assaulting him without provocation. If you wait for him to press charges and then tell your side, you are not likely to be believed. However, if you come forward yourself first, they will take that into consideration.

 

Besides, this guy tried to rape you! He's supposed to be your boyfriend's friend! Don't you want your boyfriend to know the truth? This "friend" should NOT get away with trying to rape you. Think about the next time he pulls this, on you or someone else. What if he is successful? Don't you want to prevent that?

[RandomAdvisor]

If there is no physical evidence other than injuries, anything legal is likely to end up being a "he said, she said" deal where no one gets convicted of anything. However, he is the one with the injuries. If he goes to the police first, it looks very bad for you as Hope said. You should go to the police immediately to protect yourself, and tell your boyfriend as well.

[Jeffe]

I am glad that you were able to defend yourself. It was justified in that you stopped him, but perhaps not so when you said you went too far. I would suggest that you seek legal counsel immediately.