naughtycowgirl Posted August 7, 2005 Share Posted August 7, 2005 Ok hey guys, me and this guy are both ready to have sex together. But i am scared of the risk of pregnancy. so my mom and i have talked about birth control for me and all this other stuff. She told me that when ever i thought i was emotionally and mentally ready to start having sex, she would rather me come to her about birth control. instead of havin unprotected sex and risk of pregnancy. She dont want me to car date with this guy, because she says that just about any guy can talk you into droppin your underwear when you car date. So i thought of saying that i am ready to start car dating and you did mention about guys wanting to do things, so i wanted to come up to you and talk about getting b.c., so when i do car date, i can reassure myself that i am not going to get pregnant. so the question is......... how do i come up to her about it? Link to comment
lady00 Posted August 7, 2005 Share Posted August 7, 2005 Sorry but I don't think your mom would want her 14-yr old daughter having sex. PLUS you just started seeing this guy right? What's the rush? Why not date him for a while first, feel him out, see if he's worth it? Link to comment
sweetheart4ever Posted August 7, 2005 Share Posted August 7, 2005 Just let her know..i mean dont be like I WANT SEX GIVE ME BC! be like i think im ready to go on birth controle im old evnought ect..n dont list sex as a reason Link to comment
Hope75 Posted August 7, 2005 Share Posted August 7, 2005 Isn't this the guy with the gf? Link to comment
smallworld Posted August 7, 2005 Share Posted August 7, 2005 Car dating? Is that what they call it these days? Ok I don't see this as a problem since your Mom has already told you she prefers you come to her when you're ready. Like Sweetheart4ever says, just tell her you're "ready." But on a more personal note? Are you really ready? Sex changes everything and I can't tell you how happy I was that I waited until I was old enough to handle the emotional ramifications. You're young and there's so many other ways you both could please each other without risking pregnancy or stds. Some people (most guys lol) can have sex and it not mean anything. But if you think you might be the kind of girl who would fall hard for your "first" and be emotionally devastated if it didn't work out, then you might want to step back and think twice about car dating. Sex is best if it's shared with someone you'd trust with your very life. Anything less than that and you're playing hackey sack with your heart. Before you go down this path, please read a few posts in the Sex and Romance forum and think it over. Link to comment
naughtycowgirl Posted August 13, 2005 Author Share Posted August 13, 2005 No this is a new guy that is 17 and were are really into each other. but i am not wanting to go get b.c. like right now, but later on in the relationship i would like to look into birth control Link to comment
darkblue Posted August 13, 2005 Share Posted August 13, 2005 Post this advice request when you are legally allowed to have sex, and you're ready for it. Link to comment
lady00 Posted August 13, 2005 Share Posted August 13, 2005 No this is a new guy that is 17 and were are really into each other. but i am not wanting to go get b.c. like right now, but later on in the relationship i would like to look into birth control First you said, you and this guy are ready to have sex and then you said that you want to later on. Which is it? I hope you realize that at your age 17-14 is a pretty sizeable age gap. Would this make him a senior and you a freshman or something like that? I think you should be very careful and take things slowly with this guy and don't do anything until you're sure his intentions are good. Link to comment
Kristle Posted August 21, 2005 Share Posted August 21, 2005 Post this advice request when you are legally allowed to have sex, and you're ready for it. i dont she should have to wait till she is legally allowed to have sex for advice if you think your ready then better prepared then not Link to comment
darkblue Posted August 22, 2005 Share Posted August 22, 2005 No - I refuse to give advice whereby the poster is not mature enough to have sex. You know nothing of her - I have read her advice requests and come to the conclusion that she is not mature or old enough to have sex. STD's, STI's, Pregnancy and emotional discomfort. I don't believe most 14 year olds are mature enough to even comprehend such effects. Link to comment
avman Posted August 22, 2005 Share Posted August 22, 2005 Please do not discourage people from posting advice requests. While you are all entitled to your opinion - she is also entitled to ask the question. Link to comment
Kristle Posted August 22, 2005 Share Posted August 22, 2005 i see your point of veiw, i dont agree with her having sex, but if she is going to she should on birth control etc asking for advice is alot more mature than just doing it and ending up pregnant at such a young age like alot of young girls do. Link to comment
darkblue Posted August 22, 2005 Share Posted August 22, 2005 I agree. But at such a young age - and to someone that she hasn't known for very long - it can't be justified. (in my opinion) Link to comment
cam4u Posted August 23, 2005 Share Posted August 23, 2005 Just remind your mother of your BC conversation & tell her you feel you are ready to look into this. Link to comment
darkblue Posted August 23, 2005 Share Posted August 23, 2005 It's illegal for both parties. The older participant would get the full effects of the law however. Link to comment
Amannamederic Posted September 11, 2005 Share Posted September 11, 2005 god when i was 14 what is that...7th or 8th grade? you didn't even think about sex back then because it labled you the biggest pervert on earth. and that was just 4 years ago...how times have changed in my old old age Link to comment
melissa_74 Posted September 11, 2005 Share Posted September 11, 2005 No - I refuse to give advice whereby the poster is not mature enough to have sex. You know nothing of her - I have read her advice requests and come to the conclusion that she is not mature or old enough to have sex. STD's, STI's, Pregnancy and emotional discomfort. I don't believe most 14 year olds are mature enough to even comprehend such effects. What would say about me then? If she is ready to have sex then she is ready, it is better for her to talk to her mother about it, lik that she can tell her wats best.....at least this way she will not have the chances of falling pregnant if she is on the pilll..... Link to comment
melissa_74 Posted September 11, 2005 Share Posted September 11, 2005 No - I refuse to give advice whereby the poster is not mature enough to have sex. You know nothing of her - I have read her advice requests and come to the conclusion that she is not mature or old enough to have sex. STD's, STI's, Pregnancy and emotional discomfort. I don't believe most 14 year olds are mature enough to even comprehend such effects. What would say about me then? If she is ready to have sex then she is ready, it is better for her to talk to her mother about it, lik that she can tell her wats best.....at least this way she will not have the chances of falling pregnant if she is on the pilll..... Link to comment
Marinicaj Posted September 11, 2005 Share Posted September 11, 2005 I think that you should wait a little bit more. I mean I think 14 is kinda young from my opinion. I'm 25 and when I was 14 I dind't even know much about sex.. but then again I guess things have changed, I think you should wait.. whats the rush? if you wait, that way it will be more exiting and more special. I mean and do you think your mom would put you on birth control at 14? Just wacth what you do.. always think twice about something you are not 100% sure about. how long have you known this guy for? I mean I don't want to say anything but if he is 17 (boys that age think about sex) is he trying to just get you into bed? don't take this the wrong way, I dont know this guy.. but its just something to think about take care Nina Link to comment
Amannamederic Posted September 12, 2005 Share Posted September 12, 2005 some guys can really suck...ruins the good name for all of us forreal Link to comment
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