What should I do now?

[Sutopa]

I with my bf had a relation of almost 2.5 years. We both also have told our parents about our relation. My family was not agree with the relation. But we were seriously committed and wanted to make a future.  It was my first and he was also seriously commited. Thoufh he had relations before. Recently things were a little shaky between us as we were not able to date frequently like before. But as we are in the same batch and department in University we could see each other.  I was seeing him a little distracted, ignorant toward me. The day before yesterday, I was in a little bad mood and said him in anger that he couldn’t tolerate my happiness.  Later I realised and told him sorry. But he insulted me and my family saying very bad things, like I have the cheapest mentality,  I do not deserve love and respect,  I have the cheapest mind and I pretend to be good around everyone. He also said,  he made a huge mistake leaving his ex because of a cheap girl like me.  I don’t know what to do.  I really never thought bad of him. Did I made really a huge mistake? I apoloziged and I am guilty. Usually I am a cool headed person, but that way I wasn’t able to control my anger. In our relation, he said some many words,  which also hurt me, but I forgave him,  even one time in our relationship, he was talking with another girl,  flirted also. But later he realized and I forgave. Now what should I do? 

[TeeDee]

You didn't make a mistake.  You had a relationship.  You are now seeing that this is not your forever relationship.  

End things.  Take some time to heal.  Talk to your parents.  Let them work with you to find a better relationship that they approve of.  

Meanwhile focus on your studies.  

[Wiseman2]

Are either of you scheduled for an arranged marriage? Why doesn't your family approve? Are you from different cultures? 

Did you meet at University? Do you fight often? If he's insulting you and flights are getting this ugly it may be time to reconsider the relationship.  It seems like you "forgive" him too much and tolerate shabby treatment. 

[Sutopa]

6 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Are either of you scheduled for an arranged marriage? Why doesn't your family approve? Are you from different cultures? 

Did you meet at University? Do you fight often? If he's insulting you and flights are getting this ugly it may be time to reconsider the relationship.  It seems like you "forgive" him too much and tolerate shabby treatment. 

We are from same culture. Family wants only an established man. We are still in the University.  We don’t have that much fight. He usually compares me with others, like - why I can't manage dates like others etc, but this time, don’t know why he said those words. 

[smackie9]

He's obviously getting crabby about not having quality time with you. So try and make time for each other and this will all go away. 

[Andrina]

To me, what you said in anger is minor. What he said is really telling of his ugly thoughts and his use of words are used to hurt in the worst, toxic way.

You can do far better. If calling you names and insulting your character isn't dealbreaker activity to you, you're in for a miserable life, accepting this treatment from a man for a lifetime.