A Life Update!

[limichelle]

Hi!

 

so it’s been a long time since I’ve come back to this forum. I’m hoping all of the older members are still here. I see a ton of new posters.

 

Its been two years since the SA that happened to me.

 

Ive been dating someone who understands I need time with intimacy and respects my boundaries.  It’s funny my Psychiatrist told me “The right person will wait for you.” 
 

it’s true and I’m glad I never settled for some guy who treated me like I don’t matter. The guy I’m seeing knows that while I’ve moved on from the trauma I’m still bruised and need to move at a pace that’s comfortable for me. 
 

It made me realize with this newfound relationship that I was never asking too much just asking the wrong guy. 
 

find someone who won’t try to change you, pressure you into things you’re not comfortable with. Will communicate with you and will listen to your boundaries giving you nothing but respect.   If I had listened to this advice when I was younger I wouldn’t have tolerated the abuse I had endured.

 

we’re so quick in trying to change the person into something they can never be. Or waiting for them to give us the healthy parts in a relationship. When all it comes down too is valuing yourself enough to know your worth.

 

the right person will see your worth.  If I can save you years of abuse with just this message, I hope I can. 
 

lisa

[SherrySher]

Hey Lisa! Great to see you! Even more so to see such a wonderful update. 🙂

I truly am happy for you.

Great for you to share not only your experience, but such wise words. ❤️

I am so glad it has gone this way for you.

[Seraphim]

I am glad you are doing so well Lisa ! 

[HeartGoesOn]

Sooooo happy for you, Lisa.   You go girl!

 

[SooSad33]

13 hours ago, limichelle said:

It made me realize with this newfound relationship that I was never asking too much just asking the wrong guy. 

Good stuff! 🙂  Glad you're fairing well at this time!

Some very good words you've put in 😉 .  We live & we learn and I also so agree with us having to 'learn  our worth'.  Exactly.

All the best & nice seeing you again.