TA Crush

[SarahMariah]

Hi all, I am seeking an advice or at least reality check from you people.I developed a huge crush on my TA (PhD student) as a student which is about to graduate in a month or two. He is teaching me this semester, but I have known him for some time now, throughout earlier collaboration we met a lot of times discussing the work but also personal matters (he started it more than I did, but also he didn’t cross any lines nor was explicit), I just have this feeling he might fancy me a bit, we really do vibe together, and also he laughs at all my stupid jokes, compliments me on my work and really smiles with his eyes when he sees me. I wouldn’t of course proceed anyhow with this until he’s no longer my TA, but would after there’s no professional relationship between us  - unless I am actually completely wrong about him liking me. What are you thoughts and how to deal with this until the end of the semester? 

[SarahMariah]

Also, missing a few things. I really have the gut feeling he does like me. He’s just 3 years older.

[Rose Mosse]

You asked how to deal with this until the end of the semester. Carry on what you are doing and focus on your studies. People may be friendly for a number of reasons and none of them include dating. Remember that as a teaching assistant he's providing a service that you're paying for as a student. He has to remain approachable for questions and helpful for answers. 

[SarahMariah]

 Sure, I understand it is his job. Nevertheless, he doesn’t treat other students this way. 

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, SarahMariah said:

I really have the gut feeling he does like me. 

 That's ok. A crush on the teacher is very common.

Does he have a GF? Yes stay away until there's no professional relationship. 

[Batya33]

When I was a TA -twice -once in college, once in grad school -some students flirted with me and I kept it professional.  I'd wait till he's no longer your TA then reach out to him on Facebook or Linkedin or similar -also fine to ask him out if you feel like it -once he is no longer in any professional/teacher relationship with you.

[SarahMariah]

1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

 That's ok. A crush on the teacher is very common.

Does he have a GF? Yes stay away until there's no professional relationship. 

No, he’s single.