Need advice about my 9 year old daughter

[rchubn]

"Says he feels a connection with her like he never had with another human being, that I won’t understand and he won’t explain it to me

 

Says she is just such a beautiful person, that he “sees people for who they are, whether they’re his child or not” says that I take her for granted and do not appreciate just how amazing she is"

 

This section made me feel weird. I think you need to call someone and get professional help because this isn't normal behavior for a father and daughter. When someone is abusing another person they make HUGE attempts to isolate that person so they won't feel confident enough to report. If he's sexually abusing her he could be painting you in a terrible light to gain control because of that she could be going through this process where she has to choose the lesser evil.

 

It sounds like he is doing something to her that is making her confused and because she's young, she has no way of processing this which means anger and misbehaving.

 

You're her mother. There is NO connection he could have with her that wouldn't translate to you unless it's something dark. The whole "whether she's my child or not" makes me feel like he's subtlety justifying something.

 

Without making a scene you should anonymously report this or have a family friend do it. It wouldn't hurt to do some kind of investigation, there are specialists she can talk to and they're trained to pull this kind of information out of the child without making the kid uncomfortable or scared. You need to know the truth...