ajsmom Posted April 6, 2018 Share Posted April 6, 2018 My ex husband and I have been together off and on for the last 14 years. We were only married for 1 year of those 14 years. There is a 20 year age difference between us which was never a problem until recently. I'm 33 so he's 53. We have never gotten along very well, but have always been good sexually with each other. Since day 1 he's been judgmental towards my looks and personality. I'm a very happy and healthy 5'3 150 pound woman so I've never seen the issue. The only time he ever shows me any attention is when we would have sex. Other than that he would never comfort me or show me affection any other time. Anyways, 5 months ago he had all his teeth removed and got dentures which he never wears now. Ever since he got them all removed I have lost every bit of attraction to him and don't enjoy sex at all so I've completely given up on it. This makes him so mad that I don't want sex but I can't bring myself to tell him the real reason. I feel awful but I just can't force myself to be attracted to him. What should I do?? Link to comment
GoodGumbo Posted April 6, 2018 Share Posted April 6, 2018 If you aren't married anymore, just stop having sex with him. Who cares how he feels about you not wanting to have sex? Move on. I think he has issues to have gotten with a 19 year old at 39 in the first place... and, he is judging of your looks to boot! Pfft. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted April 6, 2018 Share Posted April 6, 2018 If you have never got along why persist? Link to comment
maew Posted April 6, 2018 Share Posted April 6, 2018 My ex husband and I have been together off and on for the last 14 years. We were only married for 1 year of those 14 years. There is a 20 year age difference between us which was never a problem until recently. I'm 33 so he's 53. We have never gotten along very well, but have always been good sexually with each other. Since day 1 he's been judgmental towards my looks and personality. I'm a very happy and healthy 5'3 150 pound woman so I've never seen the issue. The only time he ever shows me any attention is when we would have sex. Other than that he would never comfort me or show me affection any other time. Anyways, 5 months ago he had all his teeth removed and got dentures which he never wears now. Ever since he got them all removed I have lost every bit of attraction to him and don't enjoy sex at all so I've completely given up on it. This makes him so mad that I don't want sex but I can't bring myself to tell him the real reason. I feel awful but I just can't force myself to be attracted to him. What should I do?? It's kind of a no brainer really... you don't get along, he is judgmental of your looks, you are judgmental of his, you aren't even married anymore... I don't see anything that keeps you guys together. What is your concern about ending this? Link to comment
SherrySher Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 He's your ex husband, why bother at all? Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 I must be missing something. He's an EX. You're not together anymore, so why care? He's an EX - you find someone else. Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 Please tell be the dentures are in when he wants to get intimate! Why are you stil with him? Link to comment
Clio Posted April 7, 2018 Share Posted April 7, 2018 I'm 33 so he's 53. We have never gotten along very well, but have always been good sexually with each other. Since day 1 he's been judgmental towards my looks and personality. The only time he ever shows me any attention is when we would have sex. Other than that he would never comfort me or show me affection any other time. I have lost every bit of attraction to him and don't enjoy sex at all What should I do?? How about stop wasting the best years of your life on him? He sounds like a controlling assclown who got with a 19 old because women his age would have known better than to put up with his crap. He groomed you into thinking that's all there is, but now that the age gap is catching on there is nothing left. Relationships are about give and take. Unless you are happy not getting anything and being mentally abused in the process, it's time to call it a day. He is a bad habit, not anything meaningful. And it sounds like he groomed into settling with his crap. Imo, you need to cut off this toxic relationship and stop seeing him for good. It's a major waste of your life and you only live once. Link to comment
KnowTheWay Posted June 2, 2018 Share Posted June 2, 2018 If you are really happy and healthy,you will move past an ex who you say is judgemental. Date someone that you like. Link to comment
Royaltiger Posted June 9, 2018 Share Posted June 9, 2018 Get rid of the moron. However, you also have to work on yourself for sticking with an unappreciative guy. Link to comment
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