notsureanymor Posted January 15, 2018 Share Posted January 15, 2018 Me and my girlfriend dated for about 2 years. We broke up in november as we had problems most was my fault as being needy, insecure. anyways she started seeing a guy the day of the breakup (they met 3 days before the breakup) and they still date now. I took about a month on NC. Went out and work out and still do. about around Christmas she reached out using my stuff as a conversation starter. On christmas she wished me and texted my mother separately to wish us a merry Christmas. Same as New Years. 2 weeks ago she was really sick and in the hospital, she somewhat begged me to visit her and seemed really excited for me to come, but not until after visting hours when her bf and family left although she never mentioned it but I have her on snapchat story, which i guess is okay it would be awkward to meet her new bf, nurses let me in after visiting hours too so it worked out. That was the first time i saw her in almost 2 months and it went well and shes healthy now! Now last week i thought it was time to get my stuff back and i told her and she came by, she even stayed for an hour an left because she had work but she seem sad to go which that went well to and it was good company. Anyways since around christmas we been talking “as friends”. She does contact first some cases and even calls me. But its always at night after shes done hanging out with her bf. I know im not the priority but how do i become that overtime because it sucks being a second choice. I know shes willing to hangout aswell but not if she has plans with her bf first. I just been focusing on myself and my connection with her, i been refraining from talking about us, and our future as I haven't brought any of that up since the breakup. I just been going with the flow and trying to ease her up as its a process. Now when we hungout at my house she noticed I got new clothes etc, i been displaying my confidence and trying to keep everything up beat. Now although it sucks being a second choice but i mean she has a bf and thats not in my control right now. Anyways she also never talks about him with me, which is good imo? but she does say "someone" not his name and not "bf". Example - the other day she called me to tell me she got her screen fixed on her phone and said "it cost $85 but someone paid half of it!" this is exactly how she speaks with anything she does but hes always with her. Link to comment
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