Saphin Posted December 22, 2017 Share Posted December 22, 2017 My dad has prostate cancer and has done for years. He's been on chemo this week and during it, he's contracted sepsis. I live away from them, and am visiting for Christmas. And I've found out while here that because he's stubborn and doesn't like hospitals he's been hiding symptoms of an infection from my mum for the last few days. This morning, he collapsed, couldn't breathe and I had to call an ambulance. He's got serious sepsis and because he's left it, it's causing multiple organ failure so they don't know if they'll be able to treat it without his organs shutting down. I just had to have conversation with the registrar about him agreeing to a DNR and they can't get his blood pressure up. I'm weirdly calm right now, and I'm guessing soon it's going to hit me and when it does I don't really know what to do. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 22, 2017 Share Posted December 22, 2017 I am so sorry. I will keep you in my thoughts. ❤️ Link to comment
kamurj Posted December 22, 2017 Share Posted December 22, 2017 You, your family and especially your father are in our thoughts and prayers Saphin. It is great you could with him and I am sure that gives him strength and courage which he needs so much now. Link to comment
Starlight925 Posted December 22, 2017 Share Posted December 22, 2017 Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this. He's lucky to have you in his life, and I'm sure he'll cherish your visit. Hugs to you and your family. Link to comment
indea08 Posted December 22, 2017 Share Posted December 22, 2017 When it's hits you, remember your faith. Remember that this cancer journey has been very hard on your dad. Maybe to him, he was hiding his symptoms because it was most important to him to be home with his family. Remember that there's nothing you could've done differently, we all have an expiration date and there's no stopping that. Just be sure you've said everything you need to say to him, and remember when he leaves, he's going to a place of peace and comfort. His pain will be gone. His suffering will be over and he will be free. I'm so sorry, I truly cannot imagine the pain of losing a parent. I will pray he responds to treatment. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted December 23, 2017 Share Posted December 23, 2017 My heart goes out to you, your Dad and your family, Saphin. Holding you in my thoughts, Cat Link to comment
chitown9 Posted December 23, 2017 Share Posted December 23, 2017 You cannot sufficiently plan for his death no matter what you do. You will need to be strong for your mother and have her future in place beforehand to help her with that scary aspect of loosing her husband. May you find the strength....chi Link to comment
Saphin Posted December 25, 2017 Author Share Posted December 25, 2017 Thank you all so much for your well wishes. My dad's infection has stabilised and while we're still taking it day by day, things look like they might improve after all. Thank you for being such a supportive community of people, it has helped so much. :) Link to comment
Seraphim Posted December 25, 2017 Share Posted December 25, 2017 That is wonderful news! Merry Christmas to you and may he get better and be home soon! Link to comment
catfeeder Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 Thank you all so much for your well wishes. My dad's infection has stabilised and while we're still taking it day by day, things look like they might improve after all. Thank you for being such a supportive community of people, it has helped so much. :) Thank you for the update, Saphin, and I hope you'll keep us posted. Happy new year, and I hope it turns out to be the best year ever for you and your family. Link to comment
chitown9 Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 Could not hope for better news. This may just be your very best New Year. :pchi Link to comment
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