sanx Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 Hi all, I'll try to keep this as informative as possible, sorry for the length, and thanks anyone who can help. I have been dating this girl for the last 2-3 months, and things seem to have been going great. In the early stages she seemed keen to involve communication through text, and also facebook. Messages in the early stages were long, excited and involved - usually only within a few hours of each other's messages. That however recently, has changed significantly, yet, I cannot seem to understand what the reason is and feel it could be worth seeking advice before proceeding. -Date one consisted of us going to movies of which I covered all costs including dinner and she came back to my place in kind of a 'netflix and chill' type scenario. Went great. Communication stayed strong after this date. -Date two consisted of going to a lagoon, swimming and having some lunch. Shared costs this time. Again, went well, communication stayed strong after this. -Date three - netflix, specific movies (50shades series upon her enthused requests) at her place, ended up being an overnight stay. She covered takeaway cost - in lieu of her making dinner, of which she'd said she would. Each situation we had sex. Not sure if this is relevant, but mentioning it anyway. Her current status is separated. Her and her husband have split since around March this year. They were together 3 years, and married only 5 months. There has been no official talk of 'where this is going' or of such. She comes across as wanting to explore something longterm with someone. However, I could be completely wrong. What changed - Communication shortly after date three was still good, but it started to dwindle - noticeably. Messages would go 'seen' on Fb, for extended periods of time, up to 24 hours with no reply, yet had been online many times in between. No, I was not sitting there watching her activity incessantly, just noticed she'd been online many times in between. The length of replies most noticable change - much shorter than before. Until eventually, I'd confirmed a future date with her, casually slipping in there 'great, i'd started to think you had lost interest hahaha' of which she replied 'of course not ' . Yet, following this, she'd opened the communication herself asking 'how's your week going' of which i replied a few hours later a long message, outlining what I had been doing, asking her a few questions etc. She has since seen that on Tuesday morning, been on facebook many many times since then, and has not replied at all. That is now, 72 hours ago. She is currently on holiday with her mum and daughter, and while some may say this is the reason - that she is busy, I agree, however, she is on facebook a lot during this holiday and a simple reply takes 1 minute? My understanding is this is indicative of an incoming ghosting. I'd like any help or advice, as to if I should now message her something like "Hello!?" or just leave it, and wait for her to respond (if she even ever does). I get that she doesn't owe me anything, however it would be nice to receive a simple 'it's been fun, not feeling a connection, goodluck' if it indeed is that, rather than waiting around wondering what is going on. Any advice is appreciated. Link to comment
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