krisloo3 Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I have found myself to be in an emotionally confusing situation and I would like some guidance on it all. Having led a crazy life-so-far (mom dying, recovered from drug addiction, a divided family, nasty breakups, moving from neighborhood to neighborhood) I've made MANY mistakes, made many friends (people of all types) and have learned many lessons (still more to come). I am 21 yo and moved out of my parents house eight months ago but I'm thankfull to be in a pretty decent (only decent because colorado cost of living is so outrageously expensive) financial situation - A job with a wage that will cap at 19.5/hr by mid to end of 2018, 40 hour workweek plus three days off in a row providing an opportunity to further my education or get a second job for saving purposes, a Good rated credit score (keeps on going up) with credit card offers, a like-new car with only insurance payment, low debt, and dirt cheap rent. Yet, I am unhappy. I may have pinpointed the problem as having to do with the people that are in my life right now. My current inner circle of friends (3 friends I went to middle and high school with that currently live in the house I'm in) constantly complain of depression issues - one is addicted to cocaine and quit his job, the other, same age as me, works one hour a day ( has no high school diploma or GED), sits around the rest of the day, smokes weed and plays video games. The other one is trapped by his illegal family, forfeiting his income to pay off a house (this one seems to be the most potentially successful since he's building his credit by paying off bank loans). I hate to sound overly critical but these friends don't seem too eager to want more in life and are stuck in the high school mindset. Every time I hang out with them, I feel the depression rub off, and I fall back in my comfort zone. I feel awkward and out of place because I can't stand to see people I've known for so long crash and burn because they have no desire to want more. I need the type of people who can challenge me and the collective group to do better because I am the type of person that, like I stated before, had a crazy childhood and wants more out of life. My gut feeling says to take advantage of my situation and break from this culture by getting an apartment after my wage caps and go to college. Should I keep in touch with these people? I would feel really awful for cutting them out of my life but I've had past experiences with other people where I've been happy. Or should I move on and find those who will help and support me in my journey to find better happiness? Link to comment
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