Johnson Posted December 4, 2017 Share Posted December 4, 2017 We broke up nearly five months ago in July. Things got pretty ugly, with lots of accusations (mostly on my part, to be honest!) He's a passive-aggressive type, and I'm more upfront and "in your face". For the past two months there had been no contact at all. In fact, last I heard from him he had told me he was blocking me from calling him or texting him, so I made no attempts to make contact, and things were getting somewhat better for me; although I did continue to think (obsess) over him on a daily basis. However, I did feel as though I was beginning to move on emotionally. Strangely, two weeks ago, out of the clear blue, he texted me, and it said, "I am willing to communicate with you, but you have to apologize to me for all the things you said! If you don't want to talk, no problem. Happy Thanksgiving!" I did text him back, but there was no way I was going to take on all the blame and crawl to him the way I felt he was setting this whole thing up, because he definitely did and said plenty to me that required apology on his part as well. So, for the past two weeks we went back and forth texting one another about the various wrongs we both did, and he did admit his wrongs, but only after I had to remind him of the multiple times he had done things that were not right, that had led to our breaking up. Finally, after 10 days of texting (no talking), I did meet him in person at a restaurant. We had some dinner and talked for three hours. The conversation got somewhat heated at some points, but what really steamed me was he repeatedly kept insisting I apologize even after I had already apologized! He even whipped out his cell phone and scrolled through all the text messages he has actually saved over many, many months, so he could make a case against me! I have no need to save those text messages. I had deleted all that long ago. However, he has them all saved up, and ready evidence. It was so strange to sit there while he scrolled through the "record" against me, as though I was on trial! I almost got up and walked out of the restaurant, but I think he could see I was getting red hot, and he toned it down a bit, and we managed to come down off that cliff. We both ended up going home to our own places that night, and next couple days I kept tossing around the conversations we had at dinner that night. He had never answered me when I inquired why he had the need to contact me again after nearly five months of breaking up! He did not come out and ask to get back together! I still do not know what he wants from me! All I know is he has repeatedly asked me for apology after apology, although I did apologize, and he goes on and on about how I had done him wrong. So, I found myself getting dragged down again emotionally, and this morning I finally texted him and told him I felt that it is better for him to not contact me any longer because I feel he is just trying to play games with my heart and my mind, and this is doing nothing but causing me harm! He texted me back and said, "If it will make it easier for you to move on with your life to have no communication, I understand, and I will not contact you anymore!" I am back now to doing the hard work of not contacting him, and it does hurt all over again! But, I just think this man cannot possibly care about me, because if he did, he would have explained why he wanted to contact me! He would do something about salvaging our relationship, but he does nothing! I might also mention, he is a widower. His wife died young of cancer. I do not believe he will ever give his heart to another woman again! I've had many signs of this! I would like some of your thoughts on this because this man has messed my head up in a big way! And now today starts a whole new beginning of No Contact for me! Link to comment
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