Danimarie Posted November 7, 2017 Share Posted November 7, 2017 So I’ve been babysitting for family friends for years and during the summer I decided to start nannying full time while I do evening school at a Medical Institute. I’ve never done full time nannying, but I figured since I have experience with kids of all age ranges it wouldn’t be a terrible idea. I started nannying with a family in August, we had agreed upon a $1500/month payment plan and 25-35 hour work weeks. Sometime more hours sometimes less. They said they didn’t need anyone to clean or anything like that, they just want someone to each their kids while they work. The dad started working from home about a month ago, and I pretty much just see him sit next to his email all day and listen to music. They have two kids, one 6-7 month old boy and a 2 year old girl. since I’ve started, the baby hasn’t had a good week. At all. He has a good day maybe twice a week if I’m lucky. He cries constantly, the doc says he’s not teething yet. He just screams and screams. Even with a clean diaper, a plethora of different toys, scheduled naps, a loving tone and soothing music. Nothing seems to calm him down. I’ve tried asking the parents what I can do, and they say they don’t know. They’ve also told me I need to be more loving, but I’m as loving as can be. I treat these kids like I would if I had any of my own. (But no because I’m 19 so YIKES) they seem to think I’m the reason, but from what I’ve noticed they never let him cry it out and fall asleep on his own for nap time. They don’t let the toddler cry for a little bit during nap time either. They ALWAYS give her what she wants. She wants cartoons? Ok. She wants to make a huge mess? Yeah sure the nanny can clean it up right? Guess so. I always clean up for them and show up early for work so they can get their things In order early and make sure they get as much work in as possible in case I need to leave 15 minutes early. I sometimes need to leave early because it takes over an hour for me to get to class in traffic at 3-4pm. I’ve told them this and they tell me they’ll try but I never get off early and am almost late to class everyday because of it. I’ve never, not once, gotten a thank you from them. I clean dishes, I clean messes, and I clean their kids up. I’m not asked to do any of this, but I do because they seem like they sometimes need help. I’ve helped with laundry as well. I make sure the girl doesn’t get more than three episodes of cartoons a day. I make sure she’s learning the things they want her to, and I create fun activities and games for her to do. Recently, they lowered my pay about 10-30 dollars a paycheck, which in short does affect me because I have bills that I can’t pay sometimes due to crappy life circumstances that I won’t get into. Anytime I try to converse with the parents or have an adult conversation about what I can do to help with the constant screaming and crying of the baby, the blame is always put on me and they never want to talk about anything in my life unless it’s kept short. This is an example of every time we talk: Parent: “What did you do this weekend?” Me: “Oh I went to the movies, studied, hung out. What about you?” *doesn’t respond, talks to kids.* I’ve really been on edge as of lately. Doing school and work full time gives me only 5 hours of sleep a night and I spend all day doing work and school. I can’t do homework while I nanny because the kids are non stop, constantly crying or screaming or they rip my papers. Anytime I get the baby to nap, the dad will always have to get up and make as much goddamn noise as possible when going to the restroom, getting food, or doing whatever else. even though the walls are thin and any semi-loud noise WILL wake the baby. And he just ends up screaming for the rest of the day because of it. I’ve noticed recently as well, whenever I’m given the baby in the morning, I end up needing to change his diaper as soon as I have him in my arms. When I check his diaper, every morning, it’s FULL of poop. And it’s not fresh. It’s dry, and crusty. It looks as if it was from before he even went to bed the night before. Like the parents never changed it. Just passed the baby to me because they didn’t want to deal with it. I’m not sure what to think of this situation considering I’ve never full time nannied before so I thought I would ask other nannies. What are your thoughts? I’m considering quitting, but I just need to know if this is normal or not for other nannies. If it’s pretty normal, I’ll try my best to tough it out. It’s just gotten to a point where I have to see a therapist now because I feel so overwhelmed with the crying for hours from both kids. PLEASE let me know. I appreciate anyone’s input, thank you ❤️ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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