Camellia Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 So i been together with my boyfriend for quite some times almost one year and i realised that my feelings for him is not like before. Theres no sparks in this relationship like before but my friend told me that it was completely normal for a long term relationship to lose its sparks. We been arguing more and more recently over every bit of things and i am seriously exhausted. We have mentioned breaking up several times but it never happened and after a while we just decide to forget what just happen. Another thing is that, i am still young and studying currently and i feel that it isn't the best time for a relationship. The reason i gotten into a relationship could be said as curiosity. Its the first time where you liked someone and he likes you back. I didn't think that much and when he confessed i just agreed after a while. If i was to rewind time i would never want to start a relationship and remain as friends but saying this now is too late. My feelings for him was really huge and there was a lot of sparks the first few months which i met him. We know each other for more than 1year and get together for almost 11month already. He is in the army now which he are required to serve for 2years and we hardly get to meet up maybe just once or twice a week. What i am unsure about is has my feelings faded or is it just normal that theres no sparks anymore since we been together for quite some time? But i feel really guilty because he is a nice guy most of the times just some times insecure and easily angry. However, i been thinking for this for quite some times and still undecided of what i should do. I feel that i am not ready for a relationship as of now as there are still a lot of things to be done for my future. But i do not know how to approach him and telling him all this without hurting him. I really don't want to hurt him. Or should i just continue in this relationship? All these thoughts are killing me yet i still don't know what to do. I hope that we can still be friends but i am pretty sure he will never want that. I am also afraid that he might get angry if i was to mention this to him as we once promised that we will be together forever but what i didn't expect was that my feelings my feelings had changed. And by the way i don't have anyone whom i fancy or like now because i feel that i am not ready for a relationship. If i were to know earlier that relationship would be this hard especially at this stage i would not have entered into it. I am suffocating. But right now theres no point saying this and please please what should i do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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