alexmiler Posted October 25, 2017 Share Posted October 25, 2017 My ex and I dated for 3 years, and we were friends for a year before that. We were making plans to move in together this year, and talked about getting married in the near future. In April he broke up with me out of no where, and wouldn’t tell me why. I asked him if it had to do with a specific girl that he worked with who told him she liked him earlier in the year, and he said no. Eventually he told me that it was because he wasn’t happy with himself, and just needed some time alone to figure things out (we both suffer from depression). In June I told him that if our relationship was really over, at the end of August I was going to move out of state. I couldn’t handle being so close to him but not being with him. I told him that if he didn’t want me to go, I would’t, but he never said anything. He knew why I was leaving, he knew that I was scared and it wasn’t some dream I had that he would be holding me back from if I didn’t go. We continued to talk about once a week from May-August, and would occasionally hook up. Two weeks before I was supposed to move, he told me he wanted me to stay, but at that point it was too late. We hung out the last 3 nights I was at home, and even while I was driving across the country we continued to talk a little bit. Two weeks after I left he went on vacation to Hawaii with the girl I mentioned earlier and her family. As soon as I found that out it was like the initial break up pain all over again, but even worse. In our 3 year relationship we never got to go on vacation because he always said he couldn’t afford it, which I was fine with, but then we went out and did this with her as soon as I was gone. For all I know he was talking to her the entire time he was still talking to me. After I saw the pictures I asked him if they were dating, and he never replied to me. We haven’t talked since, but I see them posting pictures of each other all over social media, so I know they’re together. I moved away to help myself get better, but I’ve been here for a few months now and I only feel worse. I want to move back home but I don’t know if it’s the right decision. Where I am living now I have a good job, but I don’t necessarily like it. The experience I’m getting will really help me out in the future, and I don’t know if I’ll be able to find this same job if I move home, but I’m really unhappy living here. I don’t really have any friends here, so I don’t have anyone to talk to about this, but I also don’t really have friends at home either. I’m horrible at making friends, and the few that I had stopped talking to me when me and my ex broke up. My family is back home, we don’t really get along but it’s still something. I’m also afraid that if I move home I won’t be able to stop hoping that my ex will want to get back together, even though I know theres not much of a chance of that. I just don’t know what to do, and I’d like to hear other peoples unbiased opinions on my situation. Link to comment
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