Clemente21 Posted October 22, 2017 Share Posted October 22, 2017 So...met online..he chatted me up CONSTANTLY for 2 weeks. NOT a single overtly or even HINTED sexual mention the entire two weeks. We talked about family, baseball, work..the gamut of subjects. Agree to meet on Weds for drinks....all goes well..tons of talk, laughter, etc. He is fantastic to the waiter ( always a good sign in my book). Asks me out for Saturday night before the check even comes....he knows I am tied up on Thursday and Friday nights....we get up to leave and he walks me to my car. Figured, ok...he is attractive, smart, successful, charming, nice, tall (in my world that is a HUGE deal) and extremely complimentary. As we go in for the kiss suddenly his tongue is down my throat..no build up, nothing! And then hands are everywhere. I am all about kissing a man I am attracted to on a date but not to keen on someone I just met groping the hell out of me! I leave to go home and he starts texting two minutes after I am on the road about what a great time he had...looking forward to Saturday, etc. I respond that yes it was great....blah blah blah. Then the extreme and overtly sexy sexting starts. I deflect and go to sleep. Next morning while I am at work he starts again with the explicit sexting. I tell him to knock it off as I am at work. He continues and I request he cease again. Then later in the day he tries again...I explain my boundaries about not jumping into bed with a guy right away. He says he understands and agrees. I explain that he is attractive to me and I want to get to know him better...sex is not off the table completely...just at that moment in time ut was I get a few more texts and then crickets. Friday afternoon I send out a hows your day going text....crickets. I have been ghosted. I am honestly seething about this situation and I cannot decide whether its because he had the audacity to assume I was going to sleep with him right away.....or that he thought I was an easy mark....or that I was essentially rejected....or that my standing up for myself and setting boundaries deserved being ghosted...or that clearly he did not feel I was worth getting to know better. While I completely and totally know I dodged a HUGE bullet here and there would have been NO WAY IN HELL I would have gone to dinner with him last night had he called me on Friday to firm up plans I cannot explain my internal anger. Part of my wants to send him a chiding text about disrespect and him being an extremely immature 53 year old man but it will fall on deaf ears, so to speak. I have deleted his texts (4000 between tbe two of us inside of 2 weeks) and number. We were never connected on Social Media so no worries there. And he lives about 40 minutes from me so no worries about running into him. Thanks for letting me vent a bit....but can ya help me get over my anger at him? Link to comment
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