Trainer Posted October 19, 2017 Share Posted October 19, 2017 I'm hoping you can give me some advice. Here is the scenario: I have been friends with this woman for six years. Two years ago I told her I had feelings for her. She said she wasn't interested in a serious relationship because a year earlier she lost her partner to cancer. However she was seeing someone at the time, which she said it wasn't serious and that they were just having fun. At that time I wasn't sure if I could just be friends and she said she would understand if it was to much for me. However we remained friends. Fast forward two years and I move to a new city for a job and coincidentally she moved to the same city a month after I did for a new job also. For the last four months we have hung out a lot. I also told her that it was good we were just friends and that I had put her in the friends zone to stay. She was glad that I wasn't tormented anymore, but asked if I was serious about staying in the friends zone, which I replied yes. However obviously I was lying to myself. So yesterday I emailed her telling her that I was in love her still I ended the email wishing her well and I hoped she had a fantastic life. She emailed me back and said: I am not sure what you mean by the last statement “hope you have a wonderful life!!” If it is for us to no longer be friends, i am sad but will respect that of course. An hour later she texted me: Can you respond to my email so I know what you want from me after that email. Sorry I cause you such undress, really. So how should I respond and how long should I wait? I think that it would bother her to lose me as a friend and I also think she does have feelings for me. By the way she is still seeing that guy, however they live 5.5 hours away from each other. Link to comment
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