shawnworld Posted September 14, 2017 Share Posted September 14, 2017 Ok, so I am 42 male and recently separated and in a messy divorce situation. A few months ago I reconnected without some female friends from my school days and 20's. One of the girls is also separated and has been for a few years now. We have been partying together each fortnight for the last couple of months. Usually with other friends but a few times we have been left out on our own. I've been back to her house a few times after these nights out and we have sat up talking until the sun has come up. The 1st time we caught up I made it clear to her and her friends that my head is messed up from divorce and i'm not looking at any form of relationships, rather fun and friendship. This is partly true, however, the reality at the time is I was a bit overweight at the time and not feeling very confident about myself. I've been working out hard and steadily shredding the weight since and feeling much more confident in myself. Now this girl is quite hot and the truth is I didn't think i'd be a chance in my current state. I have actually slept with her in my early 20's one night drunk but never was def in the friend zone back then and never tried to progress things. Iv'e initiated the text contact on each occasion to catch up, and she is always responding quickly, however it is me initiating things. She has told me in alot of detail of other guys she has hooked up with recently and how she is lonely and bored. Now I know the best solution is just to find out by putting it directly, but honestly I dont want to mess up the friendship if i'm truly friend zoned. I enjoy her company and there isnt many single people my age floating around. Any advise on how I can find out through more subtle means ? Link to comment
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