Ghosted, but she was the one who had been initiating

[Bismark776]

I guess this is probably pretty standard, I'm just not experienced with hookup culture enough to know it. I'm feeling a little confused though, so I thought I'd check in on here.

 

I matched with a girl on tinder, we had a good conversation, went out the next night, she invited me back to her place, we hooked up, I stayed the night, and then hung around for a bit of the morning, leaving with a pretty passionate kiss.

 

If that had been it and I'd reached out later and she didn't respond, I'd get it. However, I got home and she texted me shortly after to see if I got home alright. We chatted a bit, then she texted me again later that night and we chatted a bit more. The next morning she texted me again about some good news she was excited about, we chatted some more. I then texted her that afternoon, we had maybe a dozen or so messages back and forth pretty quickly, then I asked her out again and its been silence since then.

 

Again, I guess this is just hookup culture, she got the fun night she was looking for and whatever. But then, why the follow-up and initiating new contact? I was ready for this to be nothing but when she kept reaching out I thought there might be something there and now I'm in the dark.

 

Any insight? Is this normal?

[vesper]

People can be pretty hot and cold whilst dating. It seems to me like she really enjoyed your company but maybe it was just too intense in too short a period of time. Just give it a few days and maybe reach out or do nothing because if you do nothing, nothing can go wrong. lol.

[Bismark776]

Thanks for the response Vesper, you may be right. She ended up texting again today but no mention or acknowledgement of my text from yesterday. I don't know exactly what that means but I'm going with your theory and will just back off a bit, let her dictate the pace of things for now, and see where we're at this weekend or next week.

[figureitout23]

Yeah, try not to get too invested. Just take things as they come, sounds like it could go either way.