Likashots Posted June 13, 2017 Share Posted June 13, 2017 Hi everyone, I'm new to the site. My situation is a little different than most of what I read about and could really use some outside thoughts, opinions, advice, what have you. So my ex broke up with me two weeks ago and we agreed to do NC. We have had no luck and every time we speak, we both discuss the relationship, where it went awry, she discusses reasons we shouldn't be together, I discuss reasons we should and it's just a constant back and forth. She doesn't want to end the relationship but has stated it is something she must do and she cannot live with herself if she decided to stay with me. That being said she did say maybe in the future after she has had time to get over her qualms that we may have a future together. Over the two weeks we ended up talking about a possible future together. I suggested that for her birthday ( July 20th ) we go to Orlando and stay for 4 days and just kind of spend some time together and celebrate. I said I'd pay for the hotel but I didn't plan on spending a ton of money while we were there since we are broken up, we'd mostly be hanging out at the resort, by the pool or in the room. While discussing a future together again and she said she doesn't EVER seeing it happen. I told her well if that's the case there really is no reason for us to continue to communicate with each other and we should just cancel the Orlando trip. She said that we both already asked for the time off from work ( basically pushing for us to go. I mean it's 5 weeks out...) and said she'd pay for half the hotel room. I also said that if there was no future for us "ever" this is basically so she could sleep with me one last time and she said well yeah I mean that wouldn't be the only reason. We booked the hotel for 4 days at the resort together on the phone Saturday and agreed to do no contact until the week of her birthday just to call and confirm that everything's still a go. I told her I wasn't going to date or try to date anyone and she told me she wasn't going to try and pursue anybody but if something comes along for either one of us she's will entertain it and I should if something comes my way. I'm 33 years old, a great looking guy, decent job. She is 37, average looking, not the greatest job and has a lot of personality traits that other men wouldn't find desirable but I do for some reason. I'm the longest relationship she has ever had and she was sobbing when she said for now we have to break up and maybe someday down the road we can be together. Notbeing negative or bashing her or berating her, I love this woman. I'm just trying to give you guys as much insight on the relationship as possible. So, long question short. Should I go to Orlando and entertain this little getaway to be with her one last time before we go NC again? She said she didn't see us ever having a future together because of to many contributing factors involved but I don't really believe that and I don't think I'm nieve. I will make another post that goes over the almost 2 years we were together, it's extremely long and drawn out but I would appreciate any volunteers to comment. Thanks for the help! It is truly appreciated and much needed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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