jakks4569 Posted June 3, 2017 Share Posted June 3, 2017 Hi there! So this is my first post, and it might be somewhat long but I'm grateful to anyone who answers. My boyfriend and I are in college together and we've been dating for over two years. When we first started dating our sex life was amazing. We would have sex almost every night and it was great. Over the past year of us dating our sex life has pretty much died off completely ( we've had sex five times so far this year, as opposed to upwards of probably close to 80 times last year). I love him very much and I want to be able to be intimate with him. It's gotten to the point where whenever I want to have sex with him or i'm feeling turned on in general I start feeling guilty. I've expressed to him that his lack of intimacy with me has even made me doubt my own attractiveness, and he apologized. I totally get if he doesn't want to have sex with me on any occasion when I ask, but i'd expect him to make the move next time, when he wants me.. and he never follows up. I just keep feeling rejected, and I recently told him i'm going to stop trying and that id like him to make a move when he's sure he wants me. Last night, we were in his car at a drive in movie and he was all over me and kissing me, and while he was doing this I almost felt like he was pitying me since I had been talking about a lack of intimacy for so long, and my advances were being repeatedly rejected. I genuinely was questioning if he wanted me, when It was clear that he did. I guess my question is, after a lack of intimacy ( and expressing to my partner that this lack has been affecting me) , how do I stop feeling like my partner is just pitying me when he tries to engage in intimacy with me? Thank you so much, and any other advice is welcome! -Jaclyn Link to comment
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