MoonRise Posted May 4, 2017 Share Posted May 4, 2017 Hello everyone. I'm partially here to vent, partially here to ask from some advice. Thank you for your time. Over a year ago, I broke up with a guy I had been in an almost 3 year long relationship with. But the more time that has passed since our breakup, the more bitter, annoyed, and angry I am with the things that happened to us in the past. I wasn't angry when we first broke up. Wasn't even sad, because I knew that we would never make it as a couple. I haven't seen him in over a year, removed him from all social media outlets, and have done everything I can to just forget him. But as the year has gone by, I'm just getting more bitter (I think?) Here are a few reasons why we broke up: The big reason is because he stated that, as a Christian, the bible gave him the right to tell me, the woman, what to do. Said it completely seriously, and expected me to just agree with it. And his family backed him up! His grandmother straight out told him that unless I was willing to stand by his decisions, then our relationship would fail. Guess she was right on that one! When I was exploring other religions, pagan ones, he told me that if we ever got a home together, I would not be allowed to practice my religion in the home, because his religion said that there could be no alters to false gods in the house. He suggested I get a shed so I could practice my religion in the back yard. He was very pretentious about money, because at the time I was going to school full time, and not working. So every little thing was "Well since I'm working and you're not..." And he would just hold it over my head all the time. This also applied to food. If he paid for food and I did not eat all of it, he would get pretty upset with me. Because I was wasting his money. So I just stopped eating as much. He would drag me to his school functions (he was a teacher) and volunteer me to work or chaperone for them, knowing full well that I don't care for large numbers of kids and that I was incredibly uncomfortable with being in charge of them. Still, he said that he was a public figure, and that if I backed out I would embarrass him and damage his career. He also had this mindset where he thought he knew SO MUCH more about the world than me because he was 3 years older than me. 3 years. He often pulled the "Well you're too young to understand things they way I do" line.... And while I get that this one wasn't completely his fault, it was super annoying. He was a super germophobe. He yelled at me once because I was taking out the trash and brushed the bag up against him while he was sitting in the living room. There was one instance where I was getting out of the shower and I accidentally touched the toilet with my towel (the lid was down!) and he told me to re-shower. The same thing happened when I accidentally used his roommates towel to dry off, I had to reshower or I wouldn't be allowed in our bed. The one and only time I got drunk enough to vomit, he told me I couldn't sleep in the bed until I showered because I had been touching the toilet. Am I just being super petty? These kind of memories just make me super annoyed or even a little bit angry when I think about them. I'm hoping that by writing about it, maybe talking about it a little bit, will help me get these feelings out of my chest and help me move past them. Lastly, is is possible that I should seek professional counseling about all this? Is it normal to still be bitter about an ex even a year after a break up? I appreciate the feedback. Thank you! Link to comment
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