Hopelessgirl Posted April 6, 2017 Share Posted April 6, 2017 Hi everyone, the title might sound like some typical issue but unfortunately I haven't found anything on the internet that comes closes to mine. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. We always have been honest to each other about our 'past' so it never formed any problem to me. After 5 months of dating I got to know that he used to date one of my good friends (before he met me) and that he still wasn't over her.They never really had a relationship but still his feelings for her weren't gone by then. The more we talked about this, the more he hurted me by telling things like she was better in bed, that he'd put more effort in surprises for her than for me, that he sometimes still thought of her etc. even thought she treated him so badly and never even had feelings or him. After our fights he always said that he never meant it, that he loves me now and that that's just the past. Since then he has been seeing a psychologist to help him getting over it. I'm happy to say that this was the best decision he could ever make (otherwise he would never get over her) and that he left this behind. But I didn't. The things he said during these fights still hurt. I talked with so many people about it, read thousands of forums etc. but nothing helped to get that feeling away. I tried several times to break up with him but I couldn't because I love him. At the same time it feels so wrong to keep him attached since we still have a few fights about this issue and it hurts both of us. I don't know what to do. I love him and even though we've only been together for over a year I never felt so good with someone else. Our minds and interests are so alike. I just can't get this out of my head and it keeps hurting me. I still have to cry every time I think of the things he said or he's done. It's just so difficult because I see my friend on a daily base so I constantly get reminded of our fights and the things he'd said and I don't want to break my friend-relationship with her because she's a good friend of me. Link to comment
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