virgomaniac Posted November 16, 2016 Share Posted November 16, 2016 So there was this girl I dated for a few months. We had the most amazing time, no fights no arguments nothing. It was just perfect. But we were from different religions, so we knew it might not work out. She decided to stop dating but we remained together as friends for longer. We still did all stuff couples do (except sex). And she would tell me everytime she loved me. I was so in love with her I started to work things out on myside to see our religion doesnt become a factor. In this time she started talking to someone else. I asked her 2-3 times and everytime she would say its not serious, she doesnt love him, but he likes her very much. Then one night I proposed to her, saying I will make things happen for us and we can be together after I did all the work in the background to make sure it will. She was instantly happy, we met few times discussing our future and stuff. And then suddenly she started to move away. She started becoming confused. She kept telling me "I dnt know what to do". She didnt want to stop seeing this other guy too and say yes to me either. I started getting hurt, so I kept trying to convince her .. finally she said no and asked me to move on. We work int he same place, and I can see alot of pain in her, and in me too. She still says she loves me but doesnt want to make efforts to get back. She has a daughter, and I love her too. Its just so hard for me to let go of them both. I decided to tell myself move on and tried to. Didnt contact her for a while and she kept texting me and calling to check up. I know she cares alot and loves me ... but then this other guy is also nice to her. I dnt know if he is a rebound or not coz they started talking really soon after we split as a couple. But whenever she had time off or oppurtunity we would meet and do fun stuff ... Anyways .. last text I did to her was a day ago, at work I didnt talk to her and she said the distance made her feel sad. But I told her she had to make a decision, if she chose him then I have to go away. But honestly, I want her .. I love her deeply ... I want support and advice to how I can go about to make this work for us. We both know we would be happy together .. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted November 16, 2016 Share Posted November 16, 2016 It sounds like she needed to end things before it got too far because of the religious differences. Is she scheduled for an arranged marriage/dating to guys from her own religion/culture? Try to avoid ignore her at work being only polite professional. No personal texting and no contact and block her. Unfortunately, she made her choice and friendzoned you. She should stop stringing you along. we were from different religions She decided to stop dating but we remained together as friends. She didnt want to stop seeing this other guy too and say yes to me either. Link to comment
virgomaniac Posted November 16, 2016 Author Share Posted November 16, 2016 Well we werent exactly friends either. It was more .. she would hug me romantically .. whisper in my ear she loves me. And whenever she had time off or was able to grab a baby sitter I would be the one she would hang out with, and not the other guy ... Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted November 16, 2016 Share Posted November 16, 2016 So she's cheating on him? she would hug me romantically.And whenever she had time off or was able to grab a baby sitter I would be the one she would hang out with, and not the other guy ... Link to comment
virgomaniac Posted November 16, 2016 Author Share Posted November 16, 2016 I dont know. I was under the impression she was talking to this guy but was still stuck on me and hence I took the step .. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted November 16, 2016 Share Posted November 16, 2016 But she friendzoned you and is dating/sleeping with him now. He's the same religion/culture? How is your religion culture different and would her parents ever approve of that? When you proposed what did you "change" religion-wise?I was under the impression she was talking to this guy but was still stuck on me and hence I took the step .. Link to comment
virgomaniac Posted November 16, 2016 Author Share Posted November 16, 2016 Yeah he is the same religion as her. Her parents dont mind, initially mine did, but then I convinced them. When I proposed to her, thats what I told her and thats why she was happy and said yes, but then just started to back off later ... Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted November 16, 2016 Share Posted November 16, 2016 That explains a lot, right? She doesn't want your parents snubbing her. Why is her faith unacceptable to them?Yeah he is the same religion as her. Link to comment
ShatteredMan Posted November 26, 2016 Share Posted November 26, 2016 Go find a woman who is of the same culture as you. You will be thankful for this. Link to comment
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