What is going on here ??? Muslim problems

[Pinocchio734]

Well, well, well… I’ll try to make it short but my story is sooooo long and freaking complicated. Im in love with a girl in my school, since 3-4 mouth. She laught at every jokes i made and we had little games where i tease her. We were very close and i date her 3 time outside school. She told me that she loved her night. It wasnt official, i admit. I never told her that it was a date. She is a muslim but she doesnt wear sail, and she rarely talk about that. We talk on messenger every days at midnight for hours. And then… Nothing. After our third “date”, she starts to be cold. For 3 weeks, i invite her to see her again and each time she said that she didnt have the time, and that we should hang out an other time. She avoids me, she didnt want to talk to me for a minute alone. My friends told me that she just played hard to get. Like a moron, i invite her for 3 freaking weeks. At the end of these weeks, i asked to one of our common friends to talk to her about me.

 

Result = She suspects that i love her, but she does not love me back.

 

Because she avoids me, i text her that i know she didnt love me. She was very nice and kind and i didnt feel that bad. The next day, i saw our common friend and we talk. She said that she will talk on the phone with the girl im in love with. Since they talk, she completely IGNORES me. I dont know why, but she just completely ignores me. She avoids me every time i see her. We had a talk on messenger, but it went bad, and this is just the begining…

 

I dont know if im crazy, but i have the impression that she tried to provoke me. She laughts exaggeratedly with every body, but me. The first day that she starts ignoring me, she invites a guy right in my face like if i didnt exist, to study with her, and right after that, she sends me a “like” on messenger…!!..??

 

I really really tried to talk to her face to face in classe, but my courage ran out. The session end, and i didnt know what to do. I understand that she didnt love me, but i have sooo many question. I was sure to become her boyfriend a mouth earlier. This is not right to end like this.... So i called her on the phone. I called her a first time at a moment where i know that she is free. It was her sister who answer. She is about the same age = 20 years old. She told me that the girl im in love with is taking a shower and i should call later. I told her my name. She was very kind. I called later and nobody answered. The next day, yesterday, i called her again... But it was her mother. I never met anyone of her family. Her mother was cold and she asked me why i had try to call her daughter. I didnt say anything, then she told me that "Her daughter DONT HAVE THE RIGHT TO TALK WITH OTHER MEN". ??...!!

 

I dont understand.... I just want to talk to her, to be her friend again

 

If i could talk to her sister, why i cant talk with her? Why does her sister told me to call later if i couldnt talk to her anyways? Why if my call bother her, she just text me to stop? Why her mother know i was a men, and why does she has the cellphone of her daugters?

 

Sorry for my very bad english, im not a native speaker

Thanks for answering me

[Chocolate25]

Muslim girls are not allowed to date before marriage. What country are you living in? I have some Muslim friends. They come from mostly traditional, conservative family backgrounds. Rule of thumb is that Muslim girls are only allowed to marry Muslim boys. If the non muslim guy wants to marry a Muslim girl, he would have to convert for her. Her culture seems to me that men and women can socialize separately and not together. Her mother seems frustrated. I can tell for a fact that her mother would get infuriated if she finds out that she interacts with men before marriage. It sounds to me that she cannot talk to men before her parents find her a guy in the "arranged marriage setting." Arranged Marriage setting means parents compile a list of suitors and you pick which suitor you want to marry. Your English is funny in a good guy. I chuckled a little bit. My English is not that great either. Haha. You can always get better at English writing.

[dave_1966]

Quoting her mother ''Her daughter don't have the right to talk with other men'

 

How old is the girl?

[Pinocchio734]

Yeah, but i heard that she had a ex boyfriend. I dont think that her family is extremely conservative. Why her sister told me to call later if anyways i couldnt, and why her mother know to take the phone? Maybe this is the girl who ask her mother to answer; dont forget that she avoids me at any price.

[Pinocchio734]

She is 20 years old

[Hermes]

Listen Pinocchio.

 

All the intrigue you describe makes me dizzy lol.

 

This girl is from a different culture and those are their traditions. If you wish to speak with this girl in person then you will approach her mother and father. Thereafter, and if they agree, you may have a coffee together, chaperoned by her sister/cousin/aunt etc.