Sexually obsessed!!

[crowleysgirl]

Not to make assumptions, but I imagine that if you took on whatever role your wife has at home (probably much more actively involved in the baby care), you would probably be thinking about sex less as well. I think it is great you are still so attracted to her and desire her so much, but you need an outlet if it is that distracting. Have you talked to her about finding a compromise for the frequency of sex? Definitely don't let it turn into an argument, as that will absolutely kill your sex life, but do open up to her. Maybe ask what you can do to help reduce her stress.

[DoF]

I think you need to join a gym or something else that will take your mind off your unproductive hobby. If you don't stop fopping yourself to distraction, you're going to actually ruin the good sex life that you do have with your wife. it could happen, if you don't do things to distract yourself, that you won't be able to get off during sex because your wife's vagina won't give you the same friction that your hand does.

 

Not to offend but what you're going through almost sounds like a hyper-sexual period that many bi-polar people go through when they go off their meds. What, if anything do you do to distract yourself instead of caving to it?

 

Ohh god, please don't. really, bipolar and meds?

 

2-3 times a day is close to norm. Give me a break. Wife and I have high drive and are sexually active daily and I still come close to that #s.

 

Let's not over analyze things.

 

OP has 2 big issues:

1- lack of quality time

2- lack of intimacy

 

Chances are high #2 is caused by #1.

 

Keep wacking off as you please OP.

[ThatwasThen]

Ohh god, please don't. really, bipolar and meds?

 

2-3 times a day is close to norm. Give me a break. Wife and I have high drive and are sexually active daily and I still come close to that #s.

 

Let's not over analyze things.

 

OP has 2 big issues:

1- lack of quality time

2- lack of intimacy

 

Chances are high #2 is caused by #1.

 

Keep wacking off as you please OP.

it's his THINKING that I'm talking about. It jerks off two or three times a day. What you and your wife do is actually irrelevant because it's got nothing to do with anyone else or their drive. I'll not go into my private sex life or how many times a day/week we have sex. I just know that neither of us need to rub one out two times a day. Nor to we continuously think about it to the point that we have to rub one out that many times.

 

Op: Be careful about your number of private times... I've read 1000 posts from men who can't get off with their sexual partner now because they've gotten too used to their own grip. Lay off over using porn too, you don't want to end up obsessed with THAT as well.

You're obviously not happy with what you're doing you call it an obsession yourself so change your thought pattern and keep your mind busy elsewhere.

[thejigsup]

Glad I'm not married to DoF. The true personification of the word, misogyny. Giving birth wipes ALL thoughts of sex out of a sane woman's head. It's not the pain, it's that having to be in skin contact with another human being most of the time. When we have a break we want our bodies to ourselves for a little while, not to have to touch another human being just because HE wants it. YOU guys bathe, change, breastfeed, calm, cart around, and hold another human being for at least 12 hours per day and see how much sex YOU would want. My sex drive came back when my son was 2 and I've been completely normal sexually since then. But guys,give us a break from sex for at least six months after the birth of a child. We deserve at least that.

[shessofly]

Are you taking care of business to the best of your ability in the romance department? Are you going on dates? Does she ever get pampered? I mean, not doing all these things with an obvious goal of getting laid. If she thinks you are doing it just to get some, it might not go over too well.

 

You don't say anything about what you are doing to meet her needs. If the two of you aren't making time for date nights and you are working 12 hour days I'm guessing she's either a) at home with a 2 year old all day and taking care of the home or b) working and then coming home to take care of the kid/home then she's most likely not feeling all that sexy...just something to consider. We don't have a lot to go on here so I'm just throwing that out there.

[KevinStewart]

For whatever it's worth. 20 years of marriage and our sex life ONLY seems to get better with time.

 

Remember, the only stories you hear are the bad ones, thus the fear. No one ever brags about the positive/good stories but I'm here to tell you they exist and they are reality.

 

Thumbs up for you!