92151794 Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 My ex was dishonest about being totally over his former gf when we were dating. And then we broke up and he got back with her my friend said something very hurtful yesterday that he probably was thinking about her when we made love. I feel so violated now and like and like i never want to have sex again. This really hurts mostly because it just might be true. I don't know how to get over this. Something bad happened I had a horrible experience before him that caused mental scaring and told myself I would make sure i was in love next time I give myself it will be with someone who loves me/I love. I thought he cared for me I trusted him.. Will I ever get over this? Link to comment
saluk Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 You can't know for sure, and chances are there is a long list of celebrities and porn stars who came up in his mind while doing it before he would think of his ex. Your friend should be telling you how it's a good thing you are rid of him, because he wasn't actually available, and how much happier you will be going forward; instead of bringing up the past. No good comes from dwelling in the past. You will get over it as you learn to let go. Link to comment
Clinton Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Nobody knows, least of all your friend. We all get over being dumped, it just takes time. Heal yourself and then get back out there a little wiser this time. Link to comment
mhowe Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Some friend you got there. It could be true, it could be false. And it doesn't matter one iota. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 It doesnt matter if it's true or not and you are never going to know anyway, so why are you stressing about this? People have all sorts of fantasies, it's nothing unusual, just human nature. Also, you need a new friend, that friend of yours should not be saying things they know nothing about. Link to comment
LovelyDani87 Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 It's best not to dwell on what was said or possibly done in a past relationship, it'll drive you "crazy". Don't try to over analyze a past action, it won't help while you're trying to heal and move forward. Link to comment
92151794 Posted October 21, 2015 Author Share Posted October 21, 2015 You can't know for sure, and chances are there is a long list of celebrities and porn stars who came up in his mind while doing it before he would think of his ex. Gee thanks.... Link to comment
overthemoon86 Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 Ughhhh bad friend. That is really the take away I have here. There is no reason a friend should say that. Anyway, this man is not with you anymore and you need to start healing. Don't worry about what he is doing, feeling, thinking, ect. You need to worry about yourself. You're strong, you can do it. Link to comment
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