Spend too much time

[levie]

Hello,

 

I am feeling a bit awkward - said I've stayed too long.

 

- my boy i've been seeing - we've spent last 3 days together pretty much nonstop Tues - Saturday together - cooked Thanksgiving just for the two of us...

..yesterday evening - he went for his night shift - he said i could stay over.

 

My family called me and they said my aunt has died - I was sad - and instead of going home and giving the boy some space - I stayed over - but I couldn't sleep - he came back middle of the night gave me sleeping pill but in the morning was very irritable. I was looking over his shoulder - he was doing emails - (I saw he emailed back a weird girl who asked for a doctor - whose email he said he erased).

 

He got very irritated - and he said he wanted some space, that he needs to have time to himself and to spend sat and sunday himself. And that i've stayed with him for 3 days now etc etc.

 

I never told him I stayed this last night because I wanted some company - I didn't want to mention my aunt's death - he deals with people's emotions all the time - he's a psychiatrist - and so I didn't really wanted to burden him.

 

I feel really awkward he had to tell me off - I have a bit of a problem of staying too long. He apologized for his irritability.

 

I was wondering whether I should email him something like that -" I stayed so much because of my aunt's death and that I didn't want to tell him because I didn't want him to ask any questions but that it affected me and that I could sleep..."

 

Should I? Would it make it better? I don't want to have acted strange... Or should I just leave him and not email anything?

 

I feel pretty bad...

[jjkk]

I'd suggest calling him and letting him know your aunt past away and that's why you stayed over.

[SooSad33]

Yes, I would explain so that at least he's aware. If he's a psych, then he should 'understand' your feelings at this time.

I wouldn't keep all of that to myself... besides. You'd hope he was with you in this.

To listen and understand.. and be there.

[levie]

Thank you - so I didn't write to him - I posted about my aunt on my facebook - I know he checks so he'll read or has already.

 

Its been two days - I haven't heard from him...

..how long does it usually take for men to get over..time alone.?

 

I haven't reached out to him to see how he is. I haven't heard from him either. He hasn't posted on any social network we're part of - as he usually does...

[calichick007]

Did you ever have the exclusivity talk w/him, or is he still seeing the other girl?

[uniqueme]

Maybe he's just been busy. I'm sure he'll understand.