dating a woman with seemingly different personalities

[loveunsub]

hello! i wanted to get some opinions with a woman im currently dating. we have been seeing each other for the past month - usually getting sensual at times but she is comfortable with what goes on at the time (i go along with whatver pace she wants to go at). however, she seems a little withdrawn and distant whenever i try to contact/text her when we're not seeing each other in person.

 

i do like her....but she seems a bit inconsistent. she liked the idea of being in a relationship about a week ago, and the next day, she contacts me saying that she would rather not talk to me anymore. then the day after, she apologizes and then says that shed like me to be her boyfriend. now she seems distant again and not willing to converse. this is really confusing and frustrating, and i would really appreciate your opinions and suggestions.

[notafraid]

Well, I would be a little concerned to be honest. Are you sure she's not in a relationship already, or maybe she's dating other guys, sort of leaving her options open, so to speak. I wouldn't be able to handle that; I can handle arguments or major differences of opinion, etc, but continuous inconsistent behavior is a turn off (for me) because it may be a sign of a deeper psychological issue. Or, it could be she doesn't know what she wants. So ask yourself do you want to be with someone like this?

[NorthDallas40]

Nutcase or cheater. Drop her unless you enjoy this treatment - it's not going to change.

[mhowe]

How old are both of you?

[IAmFCA]

I think she really like you and is insecure that she is making mistakes and so then keep trying to undo her progress with you.

 

Also, I think this will lead to more drama than stability.

 

Bounce.

[itsallgrand]

She's not in a good spot. I could make speculations - and I think they would be good ones lol - but ultimately, this is something on her end and not a good sign. I agree with the others on that.

 

And it's so early on too...so that is especially concerning.

[pl3asehelp]

It's about control. The most devastating thing you could do is totally ignore her.

[missmarple]

Nutcase or cheater. Drop her unless you enjoy this treatment - it's not going to change.

 

This is what I think, too.